AIBU to distance self from co-worker

[Mybigmessyhair]

As in she has a big mouth, I told her I applied for a job elsewhere closer and was off a few days to come back and another colleague telling me she heard I was leaving my job and the boss knows.

I keep them at arms length as it is, but just made passing comment that I wanted a job that’s closer to me, and before I know it everyone at works knows now.
I have to get job closer as my partner will be working away in Ireland a lot and as my kid is high functioning I need to be close by.

I’ve not told much to my co-workers about my life or kids, but feel a bit annoyed that she’s told everyone I was leaving before I’ve even been offered the job.

Has made mental note not to say anything to her again.

Does people like that annoy you too? Who needs social media or the newspapers when you got the daily echo working with you lol

Grrrr

I have always lived by the rule of never, ever telling co-workers very private information. It's always a bad idea. Sorry this happened, but I'm sure you've learned a valuable lesson you won't soon forget.

I know everything about them that I have no interest in, their sex life, how big their partners penis is

I’m sitting thinking who fkin cares, that’s the reason I have none on Facebook they show pictures of other coworkers.
They’ve made my mind up they’ll never be added and no I won’t ever tell them anything again.

I would learn the lesson that you never ever tell anyone at work that you are even remotely thinking of leaving. It always gets passed on and may even factor in to deciding promotions, pay rises etc.

No pay rises or promotions in my work.
if I see boss tomorrow I’ll tell her myself why I applied for a job, one to be closer to my kids and 2 can’t be annoyed with lazy people who work alongside me

They're colleagues not friends. Colleagues don't need to know anything about you just stick to pleasantries.

I know that, so next time I’m near them an they talk about their partners, their partners penis size, their sex life- I’ll just walk off

Ahh lesson learnt. Best to keep it to small talk - weather, shop talk, weekend or holiday plans, what happened on a tv program - and avoid anything mildly personal. Even if they tell you personal things.