Hi all, been a lurker for a while, posted yesterday but realised my username was a bit close to my real name. Thanks to the couple of replies I received but was not able to respond to...
Anyway...I work for a well known mental health charity and have done for many years, My work, as far as I am aware is without fault, I've been a manager and I am multi qualified. My new Manager, who was until recently my level, has thrown himself in the the job. Before Xmas, I questioned by email an operational decision that would impact on my work, that I found out from a colleague and not my Manager. As a result of this query I was hauled into a meeting where my mental health was questioned and he repeatedly called me 'Paranoid' and suggested I needed help.
I was angry, speechless, then found my voice and told him exactly what I thought of him and that the use of such language is discrimatory, abusive and unacceptable in the workplace. His response was, ' what other word should I use then ' ?
I do have a mental health problem (anxiety and an adjustment disorder) but my time off work for that has been non existent.
Had he said to me, your email is a bit curt and let's discuss it then I would have been fine with that but it got worse... I was then accused of saying and doing things that have affected other colleague's mental health to the extent of them having to have time off work... when asked who, when, where etc, the one colleague then became 2, then 3, then back to one again, and allegedly the incident at a time when I was off sick. I was presented with a copy of the Employee Handbook and asked to read a section about boundaries and managing relationships with colleagues.
I was completely dumfounded by these allegations so fired off a grievance to HR the next day. I was then off sick for a number of weeks with a serious physical health condition and the grievance was put on hold. Came back to work after Xmas to yet more meetings where my attendance at different places or work has been questioned, petty, ridiculous stuff about Social Media (not visible to anyone I work with, used to be friends with my Manager but he deleted me weeks ago, and actually my username is under a pseudonym) and god knows what else.
I have worked for this organisation for many years and I don't know if this goes on in the big wide world, any advice taken, including Woman The Fuck Up...