To call in sick today?

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I’m feeling very fragile so please be gentle

I’m due at work at 7pm this evening.

It’s been a tough few weeks with DS9 who has ASD.

I’m concerned about his mental health and I’m waiting for a CAMHS appointment.

I am drained , exhausted and feeling like I’m going to burst in to tears any minute.

He shouts and screams at me daily . Every task is a battle.

He cries all the time.

He yells at me if I make a noise when he’s trying to concentrate on something .

He yells if I say something such as “wash your hands before dinner”. It’s constant .

I’m trying to build up the courage to mention homework as I know he is going to react with shouting and screaming and refusal .

He’s very anxious.

I can’t face going in tonight . I feel like I need some time to regroup.

I think if a client shouts at me tonight I will crumble . The tears are brewing because I’m so worn down.

My mum doesn’t get it and said I’d be stupid to ring in but I just can’t face it .

WIBU to ring in sick tonight?

Sounds like you need to put yourself first and take the night off to look after your mental health.

Sounds like you won’t be able to function at work and would have to be sent home anyway.
Will you get a break at home though? Sounds like you really need it.

I'd call Inn sick (what happens if you don't go in?) but leave the same toem as normal and get some quiet time x

Am I weak for calling in ?

I’m usually a strong person but being shouted and screamed at daily would grind anyone down .... wouldn’t it ?

wouldnt you feel better by going in to work?
A difference is it is not personal when you are at work, and you can walk away
have you tried any parenting courses? not being judgy but sometimes it helps to find different tactics

It takes strength to say "this is what I need". Knowing you can't work tonight and dealing with that isn't weak x

I think I’d say the opposite actually. If you have suitable childcare then it is time away from your son and reminds you that you a competent adult who is cape able or work. Also, if there is an incident at work then it is quite different to dealing with your own children and you should be able to support/escalate it?
I’m wondering if you do take tonight off what is going to change before the next tile you need to work?
Can you take carers leave?

Your mental health is just as important as your physical health. It sounds like you need it.

If your usually good with sick days then I’d say go for it

Call in sick but don't tell your mum (assuming she looks after him?) and go to the cinema or something to eat you need a break xx

It's not weak not to do something which you feel will make your mental health worse. It's a strong thing to do - making a call that you need to do/not do x because it's what you need to enable to you regroup and get yourself back in control.

What will you do if you call in sick, will you be left to look after your son

Sorry to hear that OP, however I’d say going in to work could actually do you good if it means you get some time away from the home and a break from caring for your son as I’m assuming you must have adequate childcare in place already?

DS is now in meltdown .

I did get ready to go to work but DH was held up in traffic and I knew I was going to be late .

The stress of that on top .....DH walked through the door and I burst in to floods of tears

He’s sent me to have a hot bath , has ordered me my favourite takeaway and I’ve been ordered not to come downstairs until morning .

He is going to deal with DS and put him to bed .

I’ve called in sick . I just needed to

I’m so exhausted , I don’t think I would make it through an 8 hour shift feeling this way.

Your DH sounds lovely.

Top points that man. Take his advice. Ear plugs and switch off xx