not being asked

[silvercrate]

I've got a DS who's 10 and a DD who's 5, I'm friends with a couple of other mums who have DDs the same age, we all met at a toddler group. I asked one of the girl's mums if their DD wanted to go to a new beginners ballet class with mine on sunday morning. I thought a friend for my DD to go along with would be good. I didn't mention it to the other Mum because I didn't think to, it didn't cross my mind. Then we all went to a party on sunday afternoon and the parents of the other girl in the group were there. They heard that we went and made it clear they were upset I hadn't 'invited' them.

I wish I thought of them and asked to save the hassle. But it's made me question why some people wait to be invited, I'm not the leader and the person that decides everything, why don't they go and find their own clubs and ask my dd to go? Why don't people make an effort? This Mum doesn't make an effort and never asks me to go places but I get the cold shoulder if I don't invite them. Please can someone explain this and where I'm going wrong?

They probably think why did you ask her and not them? Tell them it was a last minute thing and you just wanted to let them try, ask if they want to come along to the next one?

Get rid of the bottom attitude if you want to keep either friend. You are going to put the other friend in an awkward position because it will end up with both of you not inviting each other to events but both inviting her. Just swallow your pride and apologize and invite her next time or end the friendship. Those are your choices.

Yes, @bobstersmum, thank you. I did and they can come. @knittedjest they are more than welcome to come and previous to this I have asked them to every single thing I've done. My problem is that I can't take on responsibility for asking everyone who feels left out! If it happened to me, I would be a bit upset and I can see that but would no way have made the other person feel uncomfortable the way they did. It seems like people are waiting for a chance to jump in and say what you've done to them but forget all the times you've been there and helped.