AIBU to not actually believe bottle fed babies sleep better...

[Iwannabail]

And no mother... the reason you had no problem with us kids sleeping is not because we were bottle fed.. it’s because you had a bloody night nurse!!!
This is not a bottle v breast feeding thread, it’s an unhelpful non solicited advice thread! It’s a.. am I allowed to punch the next person who asks me how I slept last night for the millionth time thread... shit.. it’s still shit and you can keep asking but my answer will still be shit.. she is 6 weeks old.. it will be shit for a long time and no, it’s not because I am breastfeeding.. I just have a baby who likes to feed regularly through the night... just like you might have a baby who happily sleeps through the night!!! Sorry feel very ranty today.. and fed up of being treated like I am a Sado masachist who lives to instil bad sleeping habits in my child.. who enjoys the lack of sleep... who loves reading how my child at 6 weeks should be feeding every 3 hours on the dot and sleeping through!
It’s not just family, all these bloody baby books as well I am pretty sure exist to make you feel shit. This is my second child and once again instead of just chilling out, accepting that a baby is what a baby does and dare I say enjoy or at least accept the situation, I find myself once again obsessing over sleep, feeding etc because the books tell me what my baby should be doing.. so I feel shit she is not or I am shit for not doing what the books say I should to ‘avoid sleep props’.. or because everyone else’s baby is doing amazing sleeping.. gah!! I say enough! Oh I feel better now.. thanks

Mine didn't sleep better when we introduced one bottle of formula at night so DH could give me a longer stretch of sleep. My babies still woke at pretty much the same time as they would have done after a BF. It did give me a break though.

I got really upset and wound up with DC1's sleeping. By DC2 I realised it was normal, ignored books, opinions and advice and stopped clock watching. My two got a whole lot better when weaned.

I think ff babies are more likely to sleep better, but that doesn't necessarily mean they will.

My eldest was ff but was a happy, placid, sleeping well baby because that was her temperament. My youngest was bf for four months, she was never happy, content, didn't sleep through til she was nearly five. But it wasn't how I fed her; it was the way she's wired, and her father was abusive. We were all on edge.

Six weeks is very small and it's pretty much a case of sucking it up. But if things don't settle down in a few months then I'd see the GP

The poster upthread made a good point about feeding methods being used as a stick to beat women with. You're a mother now, so the world and his wife think they get a say, and there is literally no course of action you can take that won't piss someone off.

Your baby is only 6 weeks old, that's tiny! 6 weeks is a really short space of time, I've been sleep deprived for over four years now helpful
Seriously, don't despair, it all might get better soon. From my anecdotal evidence ff babies tend to improve at around 8-12 weeks old and then sleep consistently better than their bf peers.

I feel your pain OP! My mum told me all three of us slept through from a few weeks old, she even wrote the times in our sodding baby books. We were all bf for around 5 months. My MIL told me how DH nearly went out the window because he didn’t sleep for 20 months, he was FF.

I am still bf my 10 month old and guess who she took after in the sleep department?! For 6 months she woke roughly 2 hourly with added cluster feeding periods up to midnight. From then on sometimes I get 3-5 hours in one block if I do my special sleep dance and the Gods smile upon me. Teething has sent it to hell again.

I felt better when I stopped reading the books or listening to any advice other than that from my lovely health visitor who told me to co-sleep and do whatever I (safely) needed to for survival! Bollocks to all the advice, and the bloody books. Do what feels right for you and try to enjoy the nice moments.