To add on social media?

[Hiralda]

Met a guy out on Friday, both out with friends but ended up chatting and spent rest of evening together (went to two more places and chatted/danced/kissed), stayed out til around 6am. I’m mid twenties, he’s veey early twenties, similar lifestyles but obviously he’s a student and I’m a few years away from that. He was very sweet, we had lots in common (both originally from same area but live in big city far away) and said a few times “you are amazing”, didn’t go in for the kiss for hours so didn’t seem to be just after sex? Anyway at the end, he said that it was very forward but would I like to come back to his; I politely declined but said maybe we could see each other again. He dropped me off at the train station after and said, I really do have to take her number btw, then said “I’ll see when I see you” “text me” - I don’t have his but whatever!! We have mutual friends on social media and swapped ñames (he remembered my full name at end of night, and seemed proud?!), would it be a bad idea to add him on fb? I’d be open to casually hanging out again but obviously no text at all so maybe he isn’t... I did like him. He seemed like a decent guy and seemed to really like me (overheard him calling me stunning to my friend when I was out of earshot and we laughed so much)

Bump

I don't see why not

He asked you back for a shag which you said no to. He said he 'must' take your number but didn't? I don't think they'll be a second date.

Mind you having said that I'm a dinosaur so have no clue how all this works nowadays. I suppose you don't need numbers when you've got multiple social media platforms. Add away then.

If he told you to text him while not giving you his number I’d say that’s a no sadly.

He’s not interested. You declined sex, he’s moved on already

Am I right in understanding that he has your number? If so, there is not need for you to add him and remind him that you exist. If he's really interested in seeing you again he'll text you.

Sometimes guys really enjoy the moment but aren't necessarily interested in taking it further.

If you're just after a shag and aren't looking for anything more, feel free to add him. But if you're hoping to get to know him, the way to see if he feels the same is to sit back and wait for his next move. If it doesn't happen, there's your answer.

And if I've understood wrong and he doesn't have your number, there's a reason he didn't actually end up giving it to you. I doubt he just forgot! He probably thought, it was a fun night but she's not up for a shag so that's that.

So to clarify, he took my number and seemed keen on doing so but no, hasn’t texted. The adding on social media would be sort of an indirect prod on my part

I think the "I'll see you when I see you" is your clue here....he'd have made damned sure to get a second date arranged if he were that keen

So not overly interested at worst and really passive and lazy AF at best if he cannot be arsed to rummage through mutual friends, find you and say "hey great evening...let's do it again"

He's no Prince Charming!

oh, he HAS your number...lazy AF then!

move on OP!

You wouldn't need to prod him if he's interested. I would move on if I were you.

If you want to add, add.
I met my previous partner on a night out. I put my number in his phone and thought no more of it. Didn't hear anything. So (I think I remember this right) I think I added him on Facebook or something.
We met up and he had a sheet of paper to show me where there were a few variants of my number written down that he'd tried as I'd put it in his phone wrong.
If you add him there's nothing lost either way

He was laying the groundwork for a shag. They do tend to go overboard on the compliments. It’s a dead giveaway.

Was looking for a shag. If he was interested you'd have heard from him

So no I wouldn't add him

Op I wish I had learned earlier in life to move on more quickly from situations like this.

He isn't interested if he doesn't get in touch. Please don't prod or remind him it will just take more of your brain space

Him saying you are amazing means nothing serious. Sorry ! He found you attractive and was having fun.

Believe in yourself more and trust that the right man won't need prodding.

Yeah I don't think he's that interested sorry ,my dh was a one night stand and I don't recall if we swapped numbers but I was friends with his sister and he got her to message me within a day or so this was in there is before social media though

The days *

I would say add him if you like, but also prepare to move on. Generally if someone is interested they will text, and he knows your full name too – he could’ve added on social you but hasn’t.

The ‘text me’ move is a classic emotionally unavailable man trick, it takes the onus off them to contact you and then lets them off the hook for not getting in touch – especially if you don’t even have his number! He would probably say ‘oh I thought you did’ if confronted.

Generally men aren’t complicated in this area, if they like you they will make contact. There are exceptions of course but on the whole that’s the case. Sounds like he had fun, but isn’t looking to pursue further. It’s not a reflection on you in any way, but don’t get hung up on it.

Add him if you're interested in a shag.

Don't if you're not; he's not interested in more.

I’m interested in a shag and sort of casual hanging out

Add him then but if he doesn't add you back don't get to hung up on it .

I'd add but invest little to no hope of it going anywhere. Worst he can do is not accept and then you know where you stand. Not like you'll be hitting a nuclear switch if you add him

He's a young lad who was just angling for a shag that night. If he doesn't text he's clearly not interested in more.