by asking my DP to add things to my calendar?

[starryeyed19]

I don't know who is being weird here. My DP and I are in a long distance relationship and have been for almost four years now. We've tried having a joint online calendar but tbh neither of us used it.

I've suggested to him that I share my calendar with him and he can just pop in dates when he is out for the evening or away visiting family or whatever just so he doesn't have to keep telling me (or forgetting to tell me). He's quite active in the local am dram scene and he visits his family quite a bit.

I don't need to know specifics or anything and this is not about keeping tabs on him. We text and talk every day and he is really really good about telling me what he's doing day to day generally.

Apparently, he needs to think about it. Am I over reacting in wondering what there is to think about? Would this not be an easy solution to the conversation

"Oh, are you out tonight?"

"Oh, yes, didn't I tell you?"

No. You didn't. It's very much a first world problem I know but is it weird he is hesitating? Or do I need to take a breath and stop being weird?

I love our shared calendar. It's great. But then we also use find my friends and share a bank account so I think I might be in the minority in thinking it's ok

We are on Find My Friends too. So, not sure why this is making me hesitate? Unless he doesn't want the hassle?

Why do you need to know if you’re not cooking for him etc?

So, I'm not bothering him if he's in rehearsal or seeing his parents for the weekend etc...

Sounds a bit controlling. You talk everyday, dont see the need for a calendar, just ask him what he is up to today.

I do but there generally tends to be a bit he has forgotten or not mentioned and then it gets all "Didn't I tell you?"

But fair enough. I can see how it might look controlling.

Thanks!