To not want to go to work tomorrow

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I've name changed for this but am a regular I'm just so fucking embarrassed

I've worked for a new company for about 6 months as a personal assistant to the director. He is a man in his late 60's, doesn't own a computer (never has) and I do absolutely everything for him computer wise.

He has one of the old style Nokia which recently packed up and has gone kicking and screaming into the modern day by getting an iPhone. He took some photos of a job that the company are doing and asked me to download the pics and send to a client- fine.

I've got his phone, and I've plugged it into my computer whilst he's on another line and there were screenshots that came up of from what looked to be dating websites but the type of "meet Portuguese women tonight". Clearly he didn't know he had taken these screenshots as some of them are of random pagers on the site.

I quickly deleted them and acted like nothing had happened. He came in and told me which ones he wanted and that was that. On Friday he asked me to do the same thing but he was stood over my shoulder. I made an excuse that I would do it after I had finished something else then left the office. Now I'm worried that when I go in tomorrow God knows what I will find on his phone!!! What should I do? AIBU to say his phone his broken and I don't know why it's not downloading pics?!

No just do your job and you if you find anything inappropriate either speak to him or HR.

They're just SS's of a dating site and he's an adult and single? I don't know what the big deal is.

He is not single and his wife works at the company. Sorry should have added that!

You remain discreet and do nothing, other than your job. It's up to him what he does, married or not, it's no concern of yours.

Obviously if the photos or screenshots are cause for concern that involve children, vulnerable people etc then you mention it to HR

Also I would just add that I don't think his old Nokia had the internet so he's probably found how to access there sites and I don't think he's intentionally doing it so that I can see but I just feel embarrassed that he doesn't know that I know if you see what I mean?

Of course I will be discreet I'm just dreading if he is stood over me and it comes up on my screen!

If he is standing over you and they pop up on your screen, just ignore them and keep looking for the photos you want.

It's a bit like overhearing a convo that wasn't meant for your ears. Just ignore and pretend you didn't hear it.

Have you always held PA roles?

As above just scroll through and find what you need.

If he asks just say they are screen shots and you are happy to give him a lesson on using the phone and how to block sites and certain words ect...... I have had to give several bosses lessons in the past on technology and also come across things I shouldn't... unless it's detrimental to the business just ignore... it's his private life.

Also... you are going to have to tell us what you see tomorrow

No it's my first PA role so this is all new to me

You should have some fun. Get that phone alone somehow. Delete any dodgy screenshots. Clear the browsers. Set up parental controls.

Also as Highonthehill said. Offer to give him some lessons or if there is an apple shop handy send him on one of their training sessions.
Older men who discover the internet for the first time are guaranteed to get into trouble imo, they can't resist looking and don't know what they're doing.
After he was widowed FIL mysteriously ran up a several thousand pound phone bill and sheepishly asked DH for help.
Then a friend's Mum died and her father did the exact same but worse as he started internet dating and attracting gold diggers. It got very serious with one and sad as is death was she was relieved it happened before this woman got him to tie the knot. She was trying to separate him from his family.