Aibu

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Grandparents that aren't interested...they are interested but only when they come over . And then they leave. I wish they would take them out and leave us to have 5 minutes. We have twins and we don't stop.

I just can't be bothered having them anymore . I've got things to do. They just complain that they never get to see them but don't offer to take them out. Aibu?

YANBU.

Yabu

They don’t have to take them out.

How old are they?

Have you asked if they would like (or would mind) taking them out for half an hour to give you a break?

You will get lots of posters on here telling you that you shouldn't expect any help etc. But YANBU in my opinion. Relationships need to be worked at from both sides and if they want a relationship with their grandkids they need to put a little effort in as well.

They're your children.

How often do they come to visit? How old are your DC?

It depends. How old are the children? How old are the grandparents? How near do they live? How often do they want to come over?

Grandparents aren't magic free babysitters. Some will be able and willing to look after grandchildren and others won't. Especially with twins, they may well not feel confident to take them out on their own. Or they may not want to be pushy and ask.

But it's definitely not okay to stop them seeing your children at all just because they aren't able to take them out on their own.

I really don’t understand this Your Children, Your Problem attitude on here . I love spending time with DGS , he regularly stays, go out for the day etc etc , in fact he is staying next weekend while DD goes away for a Hen Weekend. Of all my Granny friends / acquaintances I know of only 1 who doesn’t help ! Have you actually asked for help ? DD used to just ask me to take DGS out for a walk and I was happy to help .

They're 1.
I've hinted that I have no time and that they can take them any time they want. They know I want help.
They work so much and are tight with money basically.
I don't know , I just wish they'd enjoy the babies some more and give us a break the same time.

I can't imagine many people would want to take out 1 year old twins. Can you pay a babysitter?

Hinting is absolutely no good. You need to ask outright if you need a break from the children you wanted.

Taking 1 yo twins out is quite feat if you're out of practice.

I'm sorry but would you tell an old person - you want to be alive so cope by yourself in a nursing home. Why is it ok to tell mothers to just cope?

I don’t get your comparison with the nursing home - but don’t forget most people in a nursing home are paying a small fortune for the “privilege”

If you want help ask. They don’t have to give it though.

I agree with you op, I don’t know what I’d do without my mum, she stayed with me for 2 weeks after my first, admittedly they only lived ten minute drive away.
Unless they are in bad health why can’t grandparents take them out. Even a few hours a few times a month. All this your kids, your responsibility shit angers me, I hope when my children have kids i can give them a hand as I’ll remember how utterly exhausting it can be.