I am a single(widowed) mother of 6 year old child, have been in a new relationship for around seven months..have never really entirely managed to get myself back on track since the death of my partner four years ago when baby was 1 year old. I earn good money but lost my house and was left with nothing from sons father.
My current state is £1200 per month for rent and childcare, then £400 to rent my work studio needing to be earned before I even start to think about bills and savings but I try not to panic to much as I know as my child gets older things will ease off and I can get more stable financially. Recently at my job we got hit with a freak accident that closed down a section of the city and lost almost 90% of our trade/income. I had to leave and set up a new workplace fir my clients. My current partner offered to lend me some money, in fact insisted even though I said I didn't want to borrow anything and would get by like I always did. He insisted and insisted and I did not want his offer as I have learned from my family and people I've been close to that often times the help that is offered ends up being used against you. I have been financially abused in the past by ex partners..anyway..this was over the Christmas period he was adamant that he just wanted to help me have no stress or pressure and to use it if I needed to and put around £3000 I think into my account(he has around £200,000 in savings). I didn't use the money initially as I didn't want to but as business had entirely dried up and I needes to move premises I decides to do as he'd offered ans use the money to set up my new workspace and start earning again. However I was humiliated that I had used the money and not provided for myself and didn't mention I'd used it until a few days ago. He said thats fine it's no problem that's what it was there for. The next day during an argument about him finding the apartment too messy(I'm working fulltime he's currently visiting ans not working while he's here) I got angry that he felt to say that he found the place untidy instead of just tidying up a bit at work(I'm angry that I clean, cook, laundry, provide for my child alone but he comes to visit and now needs a gold medal for participating in any housework). Anyway in the middle of the argument he blurts out 'what happened to the money?!' where did the money go??' that he'd lent me ..I went absolutely beserk and broke up with him and spent most of the night in a rage for having trusted that he meant it was okay to use it when he offered it and also that he threw it back in my face(I had had a sense that might happen)...he thinks I'm being unreasonable and said he didn't mean it the way I took it but I can't understand how else it could have been meant. I am so tired of people pretending to altruistic or helpful when they're so disingenious and only want to seem god hearted but aren't actually. Am I being over dramatic about this?