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Co sleeping

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EvadneRhodes · 19/01/2019 21:39

My son is 13 weeks on Monday. He safely co sleeps with me in bed.

I have no idea when I should move him to his own room. I would happily have him in with me for the foreseeable future as I gave 9 months of maternity leave left, but want to do what's right for him.

I'm ebf so this works well as I feed him in bed.

Any advice? I'm genuinely lost and don't know what's best.

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Grenoble124 · 19/01/2019 21:41

My two and a haf year old is still in with me. Love the cuddles.

JohnLapsleyParlabane · 19/01/2019 21:42

There is no "right", there's only what works for you. For us it was cosleeping in our bed till DD got too big for it to be comfortable. Then we moved her to a floor mattress in her own room where I could lie with her when needed.

IJustLostTheGame · 19/01/2019 21:42

If you're happy and your baby is happy cosleeping them keep at it.
When the time is right you'll know. -usually when they become mad rolling little wrecking balls and unless you stay awake all night they are in danger of rolling off the bed-

birdiewoof · 19/01/2019 21:42

My almost 2 year old still with me

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EvadneRhodes · 19/01/2019 21:43

DH wants to put him in his own room as soon as he's 6 months. I just don't think either of us will be ready....

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Jackshouse · 19/01/2019 21:44

He needs to sleep in a room with an adult until at least 6 months. DD was in bed with a parent until 20 months when we started disturbing each other and then she moved into a bed in her room.

Ellieboolou27 · 19/01/2019 21:45

3yo still in with us, elder dd was 3 when into her own room, I love it but it’s not for everyone, do what feels right for you.

LL83 · 19/01/2019 21:45

Do what works for the 3 of you. 6 months is a while yet, see how you feel when you get there.

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EvadneRhodes · 19/01/2019 21:45

Do you guys all have massive beds?! We struggle as it is but I think it's because DH is so tall

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Verbena87 · 19/01/2019 21:45

I coped with returning to work because we’ve continued to cosleep. He’s now big enough to have self-service boob while I continue to sleep, and as I have a 5:45 alarm on workdays, anything that gets me more time horizontal with my eyes closed is a win!

Baby’s now 16 months, in an Ikea cot hacked to be a cosleeper. No pressing intentions to move him until it feels like the right time for all of us. That hasn’t happened yet.

Jackshouse · 19/01/2019 21:45

EvadneRhodes DH can move into another room then. If your getting up to feed there is no point putting them somewhere else and 6 months is the worse sleep regression. I started cosleeping at 6 months.

Corcra · 19/01/2019 21:46

My dd’s co slept with me until 3 and still welcome for snuggles whenever they like.
Do what suits your family. 😊😴💜

birdiewoof · 19/01/2019 21:47

My hubby sleeps in my 10 year old sons bottom bunk 🙈🤣

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EvadneRhodes · 19/01/2019 21:47

@Jackshouse we don't have another room :(

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OKhitmewithit · 19/01/2019 21:48

My DH moved out so me and DD has enough room. She went to a cot at about 4 months though.

Jackshouse · 19/01/2019 21:48

If you don’t have another room then where does he want the baby to move to?

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EvadneRhodes · 19/01/2019 21:48

@birdiewoof do you find your relationship has suffered because of it? I worry about that...

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EvadneRhodes · 19/01/2019 21:49

@Jackshouse the tiny box room which has a crib in. Don't think DH would fit!

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Verbena87 · 19/01/2019 21:49

Do you guys all have massive beds?!

Nope, normal double, hence the cot! Baby has a sleeping bag and sleeps in there, one of my arms, boobs and legs is usually in there too. It’s an Ikea ‘gulliver’ one which is stable even with a side off, on blocks and with the mattress butted up to ours so there’s no gap. I made a kind of long bolster to fill the gap on the bar side of the mattress this created, and it’s cable-tied to our bed frame. There are tutorials online and it works great for us.

birdiewoof · 19/01/2019 21:49

A little maybe, but it won’t be forever...

bombcyclone · 19/01/2019 21:50

3 year old still with us as well, and co-slewing is one of the of the decisions I'm most grateful to have made.

I truly cannot express how beautiful an experience it has been, or how grateful I am to have bucked convention and allowed it.

SlimGin · 19/01/2019 21:50

My DD is 4 months, she starts the night in the moses basket then after her first wake sleeps with me. She'll soon outgrow the moses basket though so will see if she'll take to her cot (will bring the cot into our room if she's under 6 months) and will try to encourage her to stay in there. I love having her in my bed but it doesn't work with DP as he's a very heavy sleeper and heavy man so I can't have them both in the bed at the same time.

OdeToDiazepam · 19/01/2019 21:51

I co sleep with my nearly 4 year old

bombcyclone · 19/01/2019 21:51

Co-sleeping. No idea what co-slewing is, but sounds interesting...

Verbena87 · 19/01/2019 21:51

do you find your relationship has suffered because of it?

No, we love having him around. There is more landing/sofa/spare-room sex than I’d like, and less sex in general than we’d both like (I have permanent, fairly serious birth injuries which chucked a spanner in the works where fulfilling sex is concerned), but it’s fine.

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