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AIBU?

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AIBU to be freaked out by hearing...

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Pinklady1982 · 19/01/2019 21:08

My step son having sex? It was 1:30 in the morning and the banging woke me up! I have to laugh a little as I know it sounds prudish, and he is 18 after all, but yuck, I really don’t want to be hearing it!! Any tips from those with horny teens?? How do you get through this? For background, I only have the one of my own and she is 6, but my step son also lives with us and is now all grown up (have known him since he was 10) and I love him dearly, but just don’t know what if anything I can do!? Help!

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CandyCreeper · 19/01/2019 23:55

Bowchicawowow · 19/01/2019 23:57

I would hate that!

Bambamber · 20/01/2019 00:10

Tell him to be quiet

DeadDoorpost · 20/01/2019 00:12

Tape a condom to his door. He'll get the message you heard.

It's what I did to my uni flatmate. Worked a treat.

Purplewithgreenspots · 20/01/2019 00:18

Move him downstairs. Its going to happen whether you like it or not, so move him to where you can’t hear it.

jessstan2 · 20/01/2019 00:30

It's your house and he is only 18. I can't imagine mine being so disrespectful at that age, there are things you just don't do in your parents house.

brizzledrizzle · 20/01/2019 00:36

I can't imagine mine being so disrespectful at that age, there are things you just don't do in your parents house.

Even when it's your home? I'd rather my dcs had sex at home (when old enough) than somewhere dodgy or in their car.

wentmadinthecountry · 20/01/2019 00:46

I can't imagine mine being so disrespectful at that age, there are things you just don't do in your parents house

Really? How old are your kids? Where do you expect them to do it otherwise?

Me? Couldn't do it in a house at that age therefore had sex in a mini metro. Became pregnant, had abortion. No big deal, am well and truly over it aged 54, but I have come to terms with the fact my adult children have sex.

PigletJohn · 20/01/2019 00:52

"I can't imagine mine being so disrespectful at that age, there are things you just don't do in your parents house."

you need to work on improving your faulty imagination.

WickedGirl · 20/01/2019 00:52

I messaged my dd and told her to not be so noisy

It worked as I haven’t heard anything since

roundthehorn · 20/01/2019 00:58

My girls have been allowed to have boyfriends stay over since they left high school with the proviso they are a boyfriend and not a hookup. I define a boyfriend as someone I've been introduced to and have met a couple of times.
Luckily I've never heard either of them "at it" as their bedrooms are some distance from mine.

This might be a conversation for his father to have but I think you have to let him know that you heard him and, whilst it's fine for him to bring his girlfriend home, you felt very uncomfortable having to listen to him doing the dirty! I'm sure that this will make him squirm enough to try and make sure it doesn't happen again.

pigsDOfly · 20/01/2019 01:04

I allowed my DCs to have boy or girlfriends to stay over but only someone they were in a regular relationship with, no one night stands.

I had to have that conversation with one of my DDs some years ago as she started being a bit 'loud'.

Get his father to talk to him. If you have a good relationship with a son/daughter it really shouldn't be that difficult.

potatoscone · 20/01/2019 01:12

but just don’t know what if anything I can do!? Help!

Well the logical thing would be to tel him to shut up just as you would if he were making any other kind of noise that woke you up at 1.30am?

Clarissaintheway · 20/01/2019 01:15

There are way to many threads today about adults being involved with their kids sex lives.

I'm not going to give advice or discuss with you OP

theworldistoosmall · 20/01/2019 01:30

Give him the tools to tighten up the bed/headboard to stop it banging. If that doesn't work give him a towel for between the board and the wall.

PollardOrPolluck · 20/01/2019 01:30

@Clarissaintheway

Oh do grow up. There's multiple threads on every subject under the sun. OP just wants some advice tailored to her.

OP if the noise is ongoing maybe get out of bed to go to the toilet and crash around a bit so they know you're up and hopefully get embarassed and stop.

Following this, or if the noise has now stopped, mention it to your DH in the morning and get him to have a quiet word. I'm sure SS would much rather hear it from his own father than you and will probably be mortified.

Clarissaintheway · 20/01/2019 01:36

@PollardOrPolluck, actually i'll accept that. Presumed OP was a namechanger looking for some 'tell me about the time you heard your son/daughter having sex' stories.

Couldn't be bothered to search. I don't normally troll hunt so i'll take my slapped wrist

Still think the sex toy thread is weird though

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Pinklady1982 · 20/01/2019 08:59

Oh my gosh, @Clarissa, why would people do that just for the sake of it?? I can assure you I have no interest in my ss’s sex life thank you! Thanks for setting the record straight there @Pollard, and glad that was accepted by Clarissa. Thank you to the others who have replied too! Unfortunately his room is more or less next to ours, and his little sister is directly next door (all 3 bedrooms on one floor with lounge downstairs) so it’s all quite close net. I did get up and cough as loudly as I could without trying to risk waking the dd up and it did go quiet, but when we all saw each other later that day it was as if nothing happened, they didn’t seem embarrassed in the slightest. I did tell his dad so he will probably talk to him about it anyway, and maybe they can stay on the sofa bed in he living room in the future!

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Weebitawks · 20/01/2019 09:03

"It's your house and he is only 18. I can't imagine mine being so disrespectful at that age, there are things you just don't do in your parents house."

Hahahahahahahahahhahahahaha

Anonalongadingdong123 · 20/01/2019 09:03

Unless you approach it by saying you appreciate he's an adult but you wouldn't want your DC6 to hear it.

spanieleyes · 20/01/2019 09:05

Surely, if you can hear them, they can hear you!

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Pinklady1982 · 20/01/2019 10:21

That’s another thing, if it woke me up, it could have easily woken up dd, I’m surprised it didn’t! I’m not unrealistic, i know it’s going to happen no matter where they are, it’s just about being respectful. He is out quite a lot so me and his dad choose our times lol I can’t possibly get in the mood though knowing that he is in the next room!

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