To hate lads night

[Kindofnewtothis]

I know this comes across as controlling and insecure, but here we go..
I love my partner to pieces and his mates are all cool, but we are the type of couple who have separate friends but always mingle as a couple as well if that makes sense.
DP seems to always be going on these lads nights, basically and three other men in a pub, possibly clubbing afterwards. We're both young and I'm all for going out and having a good time, I have a great social life and I also go out with my friends.
Last night DP went out with his mates on one of these lads night and I stayed in, no problem at all. Tonight he's going out again, again no problem, but when I ask to come he's all like "I'm sorry but I think it's just lads tonight". This seems to be happening a lot recently. Surely every night out can't be "lads night". His friends like me and I like them so what's the issue? We aren't the type of couple who are joined at the hip and both are quite independent, but it seems to be every time atm.
All I can think is that he doesn't like my company on nights out, or maybe once I've had a drink, and is using this as an excuse.
I honestly feel like a 1950s housewife who's DP isn't letting her go to the pub 😂
I know I'm probably overthinking it, and that's why I haven't said much about how I feel to him, because I don't want to sound like a lunatic. But it is something that's slightly bothering me.
Any input appreciated x

“Even bearing in mind that though hercules, even though they don’t live together, he’s going on these nights out without her all the time. That’s not thinking it’s naff to take your missus on a lad’s night, that’s checking out of the relationship.”

I think it’s a bit early to say that. These are people in their 20s and it sounds like this 2 nights in a row isn’t the norm.

It's not like he's not "letting you go to the pub" he just doesn't want you to go with him and the lads.
I would definitely bring it up with him that he seems to be forgetting your time together and see what he says, talking and being direct is always the best approach rather than any game playing ( not that I'm saying you would).

Good luck, hopefully he's just had a busy run and things will get back to normal

It is hercules, OP said:

DP seems to always be going on these lads nights *

This seems to be happening a lot recently. Surely every night out can't be "lads night"*

That certainly sounds regular, not one weekend.

But this seems to be the first 2 in a row.

They are in their 20s.

I think the issue here is that he "is always" going on 'lads nights out'.

I'd have no problem with a weekly meet up with mates - be that a game of snooker, or drinks after football training or whatever. I'd alsp have no problem if it just happened one week, as a one off that there were 2 nights in a row he wasn't available, because it just happened two events happened to be next to each other.
I think the issue here though is that it seems more often than not he wants to go out - to things that are commonly done in mixed groups - as 'just the lads'.
You'd think, 3 years in, that you'd all be happy in a crowd to go for a drink or a meal or a club now and then, rather than more often than not it being separately.
Dh and I do go to things separately from each other quite a bit - but that arose from it being a practical solution to babysitting when the dc were young, and our hobbies have developed that way, but that is for a weekly or monthly meeting of volunteering or hobby, after which we get home and are together until we go out to work the next morning. I think that is entirely different from all your socialising being done separately, particularly so when you are young and not even living together.