Would you be worried about this?

[Doggydoggydoggy]

So, I have a friend who is also friends with my DH.

I suspect friend is going through some marital issues, certain comments made have made me think that it sounds that way.

Here’s the thing, my friend only really tells my DH these comments and is quite flirtatious with him.

I have never been that bothered about this because my DH has always had a laddish, flirty, banter heavy personality with pretty much everyone and I like and trust my friend.

But I am starting to worry that this may be more than ‘cheeky banter’ and she may possibly have her eye on my DH...

He told me that he hasn’t seen her acting flirty with anyone else and that she has made a few comments along the lines of if I was going to go with anyone else it would be you 😳

I don’t think, I hope not anyway, that my DH is actively into her or anything, he wouldn’t tell me about what has been going on if he did right?!

I haven’t reacted much at the moment because I don’t want to cause a scene if it all turns out to be totally innocent but I’m feeling really quite uncomfortable.

She’s not a friend......

This would make me feel quite uncomfortable . What was your DH's response to that comment? He needs to bat her away, maybe in a jokey way (to keep the banter going) by saying "Not me darling, I'm very happy with Doggydoggydoggy".

He says he changed the subject.

I would cut her out.

Well indeed but that means she is still in contact with my DH and if I put my foot down and insist he sever ties too she is going to think I think something is going on and I am a controlling wife.

I don’t want any conflict.
Not without solid proof anyway.
But then I don’t want solid proof because I don’t want anything to happen with my DH!

Damn.

Nothing is going to happen though is it?
Because DH isn’t interested surely?
He’d keep it a secret if he had the hots for her too?

my DH has always had a laddish, flirty, banter heavy personality with pretty much everyone. Hmm, so did my friend's DH, and, quelle surprise, somebody responded and he had an affair.

However, the problem is with your 'friend'. Why is your DH telling you this? Either he's double bluffing or he's a bit freaked out by her 'advances'. How close a friend is she?

Hm, I got the impression he was a bit freaked out.
God I hope it’s not the other one

Not massively but she knows most of our other mutual friends so I’m keen not to kick up unless it’s really necessary

Maybe she's flirty because they are friends (not in a FWB way , just 'friends' )

Are you going to tell him that he cannot see one of his friends .
You do know men and Women can be just friends , right.

How long have they known each other?

She probably views him as 'safe' because she knows he's married to you.

Obviously if it turns out she's after him then you poke her eyes out with a stick and flay her alive like the witch that she is .

There’s no way that was an innocent comment and absolutely no way to treat you as a friend.

If she's saying that it's inappropriate. He should just be telling her that. Good book that talks about maintaining boundaries and describing 'friends of the marriage' is Shirley Glass's Not Just Friends.