I had a one to to one yesterday with line manager, all positive etc. I have really enjoyed working with my team and felt very positive about them.
For background, my father died last year. Ater some thought I decided that I would not attend his funeral, and I also asked that that the news of my fathers death was not spread further than my immediate team. I've posted on mumsnet about the reasons for this before.
I appreciate that it might be a bit odd, but all ok. My team were supportive etc. I get on with what I need to, go to work, play the game etc.
Fast forward a couple of months, and I contract a viral illness. Could be brought on by stress, but about 30% of adult population get it at some time or other. I had a couple of days off, but was lucky that my symptoms not too bad and able to go to work. The viral infection has lingered on and I have had a couple more days off. I have been really ill, but now on the up.
Had 1:1 with line manager, all very positive etc. Then we came to the bit about wellbeing. I said that I had appreciated support that I had whilst unwell, which I had. My LM said that she had been concerned about my wellbeing (all good) but the team had noticed that I had suddenly gone from being bubbly (definitely not me!) to being very down. She had discussed it with a colleague and they were concerned about me and thought I was depressed. As a result of this I was offereds staff counselling, which I refused as I really don't think I need. I think my LM was a bit put out that I refused this help.
She also said that 'the girls' (my colleagues) had also mentioned that I wasn't myself and were worried about me!
I definitely don't feel depressed. I have had a viral illness and I know the reason for this and I know that I am going to get better. I feel a bit upset by what I feel is a clumsy attempt to try and help me (I know that I am lucky to have colleagues that want to do that), but I also feel a bit upset that they have all been gossiping about my wellbeing...