Moved house 8 months ago I took with me all my belongings no time to sort through house was brought very quickly with in 3 weeks at which point I was settling in to a new job. Partner only had a few belongings and clothes. Each weekend I try to tidy the house it’s clean but stuff every where. Each weekend I also tackle throwing stuff away but it’s so hard after a long week at work and being ill and in pain constantly. House looks ok and then by Wednesday house is looking messy against the end of the week. Partner likes to go on about things having a place but in reality he’s just as bad as me. Partner won’t cook or empty dishwasher as apparently if he cooked he would use one dish and that’s it not the 3 pans or utensils I use. He says he dosnt need to empty the bin as it’s not his mess he only eats at home 4 nights a week dosnt fill it up but he didn’t realise where all his food rubbish goes. We’ve just had a big row I’ve spent the week in agonising pain been to see doc think I’ve been pooping blood and on the verge of loosing my job when he mentions it all he has to say Ia there’s nothing I can do. He’s now refused to get the slow cooker and some bits from Christmas out of his car I can’t as it’s his car and he has key somewhere he refused to do it until house is tidy I’ve got all the food out defrosting for the cooker. Ive told him he’s being horrible controlling and unsupportive. But he just replied with so are you by not making the house better according to him the house is stressing him out so he dosnt want to come home. I’ve asked for help with it but he won’t he works late so I never see him. The injection I’m on is making me depressed. I’m sorry for the rant I’m just crying for the 8th million time this year