AIBU to think dh should be in bed instead of working out at this time of day?

[Flyingfish2019]

Waiting for him to come but he doesn’t. AIBU?

Are you sure he's working out?

Ltb

Yes... as long as he has let you know where he is what is the problem? You cannot control what he does.

Yeah. I am sure. He is here in the house. It is just that I would like to go to sleep next to him.

Are you sure he's at the gym? REALLY sure?

@Aquamarine1029 I was just wondering as my partner sometimes goes out to the gym (we don't have one in our house!).

Is it the only time he’s been able to fit a workout in today?

Yabu

He doesn’t have to go to bed just because you want to sleep next to him.

Just go to sleep and let him work out.

Yes, the only time when he was able to fit it in... but he has been working out for 90 mins today... and he has the whole day tomorrow to work out.

Get a blanket and snuggle up on the treadmill

Greatidea @maudbegonne .

You're an adult, not an toddler with attachment issues. Tuck yourself into bed.

Yep...I thought I was being unreasonable... but just for the record 1) I tuck myself into bed quite often because he travels a lot 2) I think it is normal I am feeling attached to my own husband - what else?

I've read your other thread. How do you expect him to stay manly if he doesn't work out?

Speak to him, FFS. He's your husband -not some soap opera character. You want him to come to bed? Tell him!

Are you his wife or his nanny?

Speak to him I did not do that for several reasons 1) He was in another room and I would have had to yell across the house (and he probably wouldn’t have heard me because he is short of hearing) but it would have woken up the kids and after a long day I would really have to make-myself-get-up
But more important: I am not sure if I was going to nanny him/demand to much of him. I was not sure if he was being unreasonable to work out at this time of day or if I was being unreasonable for expecting him to be in bed.

Backstory No 1: He has insomnia and sometimes stays up until 3 or 4 o‘clock in the morning and/or falls asleep in uncomfortable places
Backstory No 2: I think that I do nanny him too much
Backstory No 3: In the past I often “made him“ come to bed
Backstory No 4: He travels a lot because of his work and he works a lot so I see little of him and am sad when I cannot cuddle up to him

In the past I often “made him“ come to bed

You shouldn't be doing that, that sounds controlling I'm sorry. I know you want to sleep next to him but you can't make people do stuff.