To wonder who I am now?

[GremlinDolphin1]

In the last few months, all the external things that define my perspective have changed - I have started a new (completely different) career, I am finally getting divorced after 20 years of marriage (and the person I thought loved me doesn’t and isn’t the person I thought he was either), my mum has dementia and is fast becoming more like another child than my mum, I have stopped dyeing my hair and look very different, my teenagers are becoming more independent and don’t need me as much, my best friend is suffering a life changing illness and my Ancestry DNA result is clearly showing that something I thought is clearly not true!

There are lots of positives in here but I just don’t feel like I know who “me” is anymore!

Can anyone relate to this?

Yes. Any major changes in life and direction bring on a bout of existentialism.

Are you happy with who you are, even though you don't fully recognise yourself?

Yes, we all change with time. The saying "we have grown apart" is not there without a reason.

Think of this as the chrysalis stage.

What is the ancestry change?

I m thinking of doing dna ancestry check but not sure if I’d like the result

Yes I’m happy with my changes (not my poor friend’s situation).

The DNA has come back that I am very strongly from a specific part of the UK that we have no connection with but probably means my lovely Dad is not actually my biological Dad!! Doesn’t change my relationship with him (he passed away 10 yrs ago) but is quite intriguing and opens up the possibility that I might have a half sibling (I’m an only child)!