Ex keeps putting me down

[londongreggs]

He's literally just moved out 2 weeks ago, but we've been living together since last Christmas 2017 whilst we were separated. We split up December 2017, he got with this girl 6 months later. It was awful living with him whilst he was dating her, because he would compare me to her and drop hints about her size, her appearance etc. I'm size 16 now, I used to be a size 24. I've always been insecure about my body and he knew this. I believe he has full blown NPD, he always tries to start an argument with me, saying things like how I've ruined his life, I'm the worst mistake he's ever made, how he "lasted 7 years with me, but will last 18 years with her" ( his own words)

I can't block him as I have children with him, so need to communicate. I'm not where I want to be when it comes to my body and self esteem. And it doesn't help when he's constantly comparing me to his new girlfriend, feeling low at the moment.

Refuse to engage about anything that is not relating to children.
Try to set standard time (eg pick between 5 and 5.30)
Do not phone.
Don't have chats at handover, until he starts to get the message have someone else around for handover.
Do not answer anything not relating to child contact. If it's all mixed up in a jumbled ranty mess then cut and paste his question and your answer.
Keep all answers really short. Do not explain yourself. Say yes. OK or No, that won't work (obviously be reasonable but that is a two way street).
Get a new phone or email, give that to your friends and family then you can ignore him for a whole day if needs be as he only will have the old one.

Doubt she will want him for 18 years tbh!