To ask if this is common?

[Jaxtellerswife]

I have an ongoing problem that's something and nothing but it's starting to get to me. I'm wondering if it happens to everybody?
I find that if something stressful happens I start doubting I've done things properly at work,
For example SIL has just had a go at me (very dull, not important) but it's caused me to sit here agitated that I might not have turned the dishwasher off at work properly.
I know this sounds minor but it's going to keep playing on my mind for the foreseeable now, probably until Monday. As in knots in my tummy and a feeling of dread.
Other times I have to rattle the doors to check they are locked and then go back to be doubly sure.
I've started saying 'I'm locking the door, the door is locked' so I register I've done it.
Now sitting here stressing about the damn dishwasher
It's not a world ending problem but it's so frustrating not being able to stop the panic feeling.
So normal? Lol please tell me I'm not alone!

Can't answer whether or not it's normal but you're definitely not alone. I do the exact same, it could be OCD if it's interfering with your life (which it sounds like it is). Go see your GP (I say as someone who once drove 3 hours to check i had unplugged the hoover and who hasn't seen the GP about it).

I'm the same. It's like your brain is trying to cope/distract you from what is actually causing the stress (your sil) by focusing elsewhere.
I become convinced I've left hair straighteners plugged in at home or not locked the safe at work etc.

I'm fine when not stressed/anxious

What's the worst case scenario with the dishwasher at work? It sounds as if you are under a lot of stress and focusing on things you can't actually do anything about.

I actually don't know the worst case scenario. I turned it off and opened it very slightly to air out and left it. It's new, I don't know why it's bothering me so much.
I don't like being moaned at so maybe partly worried about that, if I do forget something getting in 'trouble'. I've never forgotten anything like that so far though.
It's just so annoying
I don't know about ocd, it doesn't seem as severe as I'd expect an ocd behaviour to be and I don't like to waste doctors time (plus they are pretty useless around here!)

@LuckyLou7 yo be fair I am quite stressed and I do worry a lot, it's like if I forget to worry I'm going to be caught unawares when a problem arises.
Heading to late stages of pregnancy, that's probably not helping.
Thanks for replies

It's common for anxiety to increase in pregnancy, so I would have a chat to your GP or midwife about it.

If you then refer yourself to local talking therapies you should get priority as you are pregnant.

Something like CBT could really help

My OH has OCD and you sound a little like him.

Op my dishwasher is on continuously. I don't even know where its plugged in if I'm honest!! 😂 I'm sure it's fine.

On the other hand I noticed that I kept forgetting things etc and it turned out to be a vitamin B12 deficiency

Sounds very much like OCD. (Which is mostly about intrusive thoughts, not just cleaning!)
Speak to your GP if it gets too much.

Oh and pregnancy / having a baby kicked off my ocd something crazy.

I had a whole weekend ruined once as I left my phone charger plugged in at work so I got convinced the building would burn down. You are not alone!

I can often question myself, but I’ve learnt to teach myself I know “me” . I know my habits, my ways, how I would approach things and situations.
How perdantic I am about leaving the house etc. Believe in yourself more.
You know you better than anybody, so be the biggest believer in yourself

You sound like how I used to be! I used to have to do the whole 'I've locked the door' thing too and once I drove all the way back to work and open up because I thought I hadn't turned the printer off and I was worried about a fire 🙄
I don't seem to have these issues now I'm a FTM (don't know why) but I used to put it down to being responsible for things and being the person who would be blame if something happened. I don't think it's OCD but just anxiety.

No, it isn’t normal. Your connecting your SIL to being crap at work is not a normal reaction! It isn’t that your’re questioning yourself or worrying about something that you might have done (as other people are describing) - it’s the fact that you experienced one thing and your reaction was extreme worry about something unconnected, that is not normal.

Thanks everyone for replying.
It was nice to get that off my chest a bit!
I think with regards to SIL it didn't upset me at all it just bothered me that it distracted me and possibly caused me to forget something.
It's not all the time or anything, I'd just like to be one of those people that doesn't get a jarring knot in my stomach over what is really not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. Repeatedly.
If it became a big issue I'd speak to someone properly.
Thanks everyone