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AIBU?

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Original poster

To ignore this woman and carry on parking there?

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SozNotSorry · 18/01/2019 17:07

Name changed for this, but I am a regular poster.

I work in mornings as a TA at a local primary school. Unfortunately the school car park isn't big enough for everyone, so some of us have to park on the roads outside because obviously the teachers take priority and are there before us in the mornings. I usually park in the same spot, just out of habit really but am always considerate.

Today as I left work an elderly lady who lives in the propertyI park outside came out and rudely told me that she was sick of me parking outside her home, and that because of me delivery drivers had trouble finding her home (WTF). She then said that if I did it again she'd ring the police and tell them my car was abandoned and get it towed away (again WTF?!). There was another car parked behind me that I'd never seen before in my life and she told that I needed to tell the owner of that car to do the same (a final WTF?)

I was a bit taken a back. Not that it's relevant, but it's an affluent area where all properties have ample off road parking, so it's not like I'm taking up a valuableparking space. I'm parked legally, I'm fully taxed and MOT'd so the police wouldn't want to know, and how the fuck am I supposed to know who the other car belonged to?!

AIBU to just carry on parking there?

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kitkatsky · 18/01/2019 17:10

Not at all. If there isn't residents parking then you have as much right as anyone to park there. It's sadly the price you pay for living near a school

Yellowbutterfly1 · 18/01/2019 17:10

Are you parked over the dropped curb or the slanted bit of kerb alongside the dropped kerb?

AlwaysInMotion · 18/01/2019 17:11

YANBU. Next time ask her to show you the deeds that state she owns that bit of road.

PepsiLola · 18/01/2019 17:13

As long as you're legally parked, as in not on double yellows/no dropped kerb, I would carry on.

As long as you are not driving a big van which is actually hiding her property (even so it's for a few hours?! I can't see that being an issue)...

NameChangeNugget · 18/01/2019 17:13

Yanbu. Fuck her

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SozNotSorry · 18/01/2019 17:15

No Yellow. I never park close to the driveway. It not like I'm even there all day, I'm gone by 1pm!

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Badbadbunny · 18/01/2019 17:16

As long as you're legally parked, as in not on double yellows/no dropped kerb, I would carry on.

And not directly opposite her drive on a narrow road meaning she can't get in/out without a 50 point turn.

PurpleDaisies · 18/01/2019 17:16

You can park anywhere that’s legal but I’d try and nix it up a bit so you’re not always in the same place.

PoisonousSmurf · 18/01/2019 17:18

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lunicorn · 18/01/2019 17:18

Did you have a chance to reply to her?
My thought is that she has no legal rights over that space and not a leg to stand on.
That said, it's making her anxious. You could tell her that you have a right to park there but will vary where you park if that helps.

WhoKnewBeefStew · 18/01/2019 17:18

You are as entitled at the next person to park anywhere you want as long as it’s legally. I know it’s a pita when people park outside your house all the time but tough shit really. Simply carry on

gentlyscented · 18/01/2019 17:18

Your parked fine and not even for the whole day, some people really do need to wind their neck in.

Although I'd put a note on the dash saying your cars not abandoned just incase she does stoop that low 🧐

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SozNotSorry · 18/01/2019 17:19

I suppose I could PurpleDaisies. But I really wouldn't dream of going out and telling someone that they couldn't park outside my house, and I live in a terrace with no driveway!

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ChainVaper · 18/01/2019 17:19

Even if she called the police they wouldn’t do anything! As long as you’re taxed and insured you have every right to park there! People like that really piss me off! I live on a road right near a school , plus we live in a London suburb and have a train station on our road , no off street parking as houses are old so driveways can’t be dropped - parking is a pain BUT the school parents and commuters have every right to park on my road!

CrabbyPatty · 18/01/2019 17:19

As long as you are not blocking the pavement for disabled/pram access (this can be an offence). You could stick a note in the window saying the car is not abandoned and your phone number (in case she does convince someone it's absndoned). Or if you were feeling nice you could try and park elsewhere when possible but I don't like the idea of entitled people thinking they're right!

SillySallySingsSongs · 18/01/2019 17:20

Old ladies like that are the worst. Even in the 80s, if I had to park in a posh area to get to the shops, the old biddies would come out and say they didn't want me parking there!

So many sterotyping nonsense, so little time, with a nice bit of agesism and mysogeny for good measure.

CrabbyPatty · 18/01/2019 17:21

She probably thinks she's in the right. I'm going to be bold and suggest it's an age thing - based on my neighbour and grandparent's views.

Northofsomewhere · 18/01/2019 17:21

By the sounds of it if you didn't park there someone else would park in the same space anyway.

Whilst your car may make it more difficult for delivery driver to identify the address that's not your fault if you're being conscientious. If she's concerned she could take steps to make the house name/number more visible (refreshing paint/moving any signage). I live on a really long winding street where the address is often difficult to find if using a sat nav but we always complete the additional information portion when ordering items for delivery. This lady could take those steps too and wouldn't have an issue with deliveries regardless or who's parked outside.

In short, carry on parking where you are, ensure you aren't blocking any signage and just be polite and firm if confronted again.

Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 18/01/2019 17:21

My own neighbour tells everyone not to park outside her house as it blocks her light!! She owns an 8 car park that she keeps locked.
And empty!!
Bonkers.

pouraglasshalffull · 18/01/2019 17:22

As long as your legally parked then YANBU. She's just being spiteful

What are the police going to do? Worsts case scenario they look up the car details find out its legal and hasn't been stolen and can't do anything. I highly doubt they would tow the car without speaking to you (the owner)

Some people really have nothing better to do with their lives

CrabbyPatty · 18/01/2019 17:23

Ha, a bit of ageism from me juat in time for @SillySallySingsSongs I'll be honest any other type of stereotyping- racist, sexist etc I wouldn't stand for...

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SozNotSorry · 18/01/2019 17:24

Trust me, I'm not in anyway blocking any signage. The house is sort of sloped up from the pavement and my car is really small.

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PoisonousSmurf · 18/01/2019 17:25

I'm lucky enough to own half of the road outside my house (private estate). But I still allow visitors to use it as long as it's not a regular thing.
Some people near schools really need a reality check!

Drum2018 · 18/01/2019 17:25

Next time she comes out tell her that you have spoken to the police/council/solicitor (take your pick) and they have confirmed that it's a public road and you are legally entitled to park there.

Tweety1981 · 18/01/2019 17:26

They r a different generation ... not used to today’s traffic etc etc

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