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To ask how we can help our son at school?

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VeepVeep · 18/01/2019 16:28

8 year old DS has been picked on by one boy a lot since going into Y3. The same boy he was friends with up till now. This other boy makes stupid comments about his footie skills, about things he gets wrong - calls him an idiot, slow claps. That sort of stuff. Ironically, DS is very sporty and academic, so there's probably something around that.

It culminated in him coming out crying one day, and the teacher taking a hand and getting involved. But then, the next day DS comes home and says a) the boy still doing it b) started saying all these other kids are also picking on him.

While I can believe the former, I am not sure the latter is true. I think he might be sensitive.

I don't want to disbelieve him, nor do I want him to get overwrought about every thing the others say to him. Kids aren't always very nice.

Obviously, if it feels 'real' in a week or so, I'll go to the teacher.

But how I can handle this and help him? How should he react to the other kids? How do Imake him more resilient?

(For information - he's not always the most flexible of kids. He likes to do things his way. That might not be helping him. But equally, he has one very close boy friend in the class, another fairly good boy friend, and two girl friends (but they don't play at school, only on play dates). I,e, he's not without friends)

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Iamnobirdandnonetensnaresme · 18/01/2019 16:29

Talk to the teacher, every day until they get the message across that this is not acceptable.

VeepVeep · 18/01/2019 16:35

Yes, but my point is also that I'm not sure the wider group of kids are being that mean. I think the initial boy is - I will absolutely be on this - but I'm wondering how to support my son in dealing with wider friendship stuff

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RedSkyLastNight · 18/01/2019 16:36

unless this is a very small school, simply suggest that your DS keeps away from the other boy.
But, yes, agree that you should tell DS to tell an adult every time there is an incident and keep following them up yourself.

JiltedJohnsJulie · 18/01/2019 16:42

If your DS is telling you several children are bullying him, you need to bring it up with the teacher, every single time.

ShalomJackie · 18/01/2019 16:47

I suspect the others are actually joining in so they don't get singled out by the first boy.

Definitely let teacher know so she can keep an eye on.things.

bridgetreilly · 18/01/2019 16:48

Well, when he says the other children are picking on him, ask him what they are actually doing or saying, if you aren't sure whether there's a problem.

VeepVeep · 18/01/2019 17:29

Yes, I need to interrogate it more. Thanks all

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