To feel like throwing the bottle out the window?

[nos123]

My 5 week old boy has colic (I believe) and screams relentlessly through the early evening through to about 1am. The colic drops seem to help but the evenings leave me feeling emotionally drained. He cries because he wants the bottle but cries when he has the bottle in his mouth. He sounds furious when he cries, thrashing his arms and legs and throwing himself back.

I ended up crying last night after his dad indirectly called him a twat. I feel ashamed to admit that this is partly because for a second I wanted to agree that the baby was a twat (of all things to call a baby). It highlighted how my own thoughts had become so distorted that I believed the baby was crying on purpose. I felt horribly guilty. I know he’s actually crying because he’s in pain and not just because he wants to, which makes me feel even worse.

I get very angry and frustrated at night and I don’t know how to stop this. I would never hurt my baby but sometimes I feel so angry and tired that I want to throw things and scream. I don’t know anyone who has children so I have no one to talk to and I’m too ashamed to admit this to anyone anyway.

I’m generally quite cheerful during the day, although most days I’m just on my own with the baby while my partner is at work (he works 10 hours a day and doesn’t really help much when he gets home). I’m not sure why I can’t cope by the evenings. Does anyone have advice?

seriously consider whether it might be silent reflux, and also cows milk allergy which often go hand in hand with colic. Try changing the milk formula too.

www.cowsmilkallergy.co.uk/home/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIvOG0z5qG4AIVSbftCh0OxAGSEAAYASAAEgLmQfD_BwE

When my baby was about 5 weeks old and I desperately needed to sleep I said to her ‘shut the fuck up you fucking twat’ 5 or 6 times in a row. I said it in my soothing talk to baby tone of voice, burst into tears afterwards, said I’m sorry over and over, and then wanted to kill myself for being such a shit mum and not deserving my baby or my husband. Definitely not just you.

She’s only 10 weeks old and has been doing better sleep wise but awful feeding wise, been to GPS yesterday and we’re now trying different meds for her reflux as is on gaviscon but she still screams in pain during and after feeding. I’ve been coping with it ok as I’ve had just enough sleep to not feel like I’m dying, but god knows what awful things I’m going to say to her when her overnight sleep regresses.

Whatever I may think or say though won’t change the fact that I adore and am doing the very best I can for her, and same goes for you.

I’m going to take him to the GP. I can’t stand it anymore. I thought I’d hit the jackpot with the Dentinox drops but they’ve stopped working and now he seems constipated. He’s been crying with every feed and it’s taking hours feed him, he even has tears running down his face. As soon as the bottle goes in his mouth, before he’s even taken any milk, he’s screaming! It’s breaking my heart. I actually have an ear ache and headache. Even my stomach hurts and I think that’s the stress.

Thanks for the advice, I’m going to buy some comfort formula in the morning. I wonder if it is an allergy to cows milk? He only cries like this when he’s hungry/ trying to feed. I really sympathise with everyone who’s been through this/going through this.

I hope everything is ok op. Did you manage to see a doctor?

nos123 any sign of teeth?

Ashton and parsons teething powders worked for my DC colic but they may of changed the formula as I'm going back quite a few years.

Change the milk! There is well-reported problem with babies and the new apatamil formulation. Doesn’t need to be comfort milk, just any other brand. It might take a few days to take effect, but that would be my first port of call.