Noise in the morning

[ItsAllShitsAndGiggles]

As LO wakes at 5:30am (whole seperate thread there 😂) OH and I take it in turns to get up with him. I usually make a coffee then camp out in the front room as quietly as possible, door closed, tv/books/puzzles to entertain so as not to disturb everyone else. OH on the other hand does stuff - this morning he's put dishes away, ironed a shirt and ground coffee beans whilst LO played with his toy kitchen and chattered away. I think they're really loud, and although I've mentioned it a few times OH just doesn't get how noisy he is and that I can't get back to sleep because of it (he on the other hand could sleep through anything). AIBU and overly grumpy, or right to be annoyed at not actually getting a lie-in?

YANBU! That would annoy the hell out of me! I had much the same problem with my oh with our first. Now, to be fair, there’s no way of keeping both of them quiet but I do at least try. He seems to get the noisiest toys out though which winds me up!x

Putting dishes away and ironing a shirt aren't noisy activities, you are being a bit sensitive, I understand why if he's getting up that early he wants to be productive. The coffee grinding I'll give you, especially if it's a small house. Maybe get some ear plugs for his mornings and tell him to run the Hoover round while he's up and so full of beans.

I couldn't be too angry at oh if he's actually getting stuff done of his own volition... Earplugs?

Earplugs

When this has happened to me I've just made sure the next morning I take an equal amount of consideration. So not in a spiteful way but to decide that it puts me out to stay contained and quiet and it makes my mornings difficult, but it obviously isn't a priority for him so I don't need to make it a priority either.

We're all quiet and contained in the morning now.

Grinding beans would send me looking for a divorce lawyer.

I think yabu. But I completely understand as I'm the one who is a light sleeper and even when it's my lie in, the sound of everyone else existing downstairs does wind me up. I've bought ear plugs.

Yabu about everything but the coffee beans.

Get ear plugs.

We live in a flat and take turns laying in at the weekend. Whoever stays in bed just shoves in the earplugs and closes the door. You get used to the general house noise.

If it's his turn to get up, put earplugs in the night before.

Nothing wrong with him getting some housework done before work if he has to get up at 5.30am!