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AIBU to have pointed this out (when asked)?

110 replies

onegiftedgal · 17/01/2019 23:13

DS goes to a football academy and a slightly newer parent had lost her DS training top pitchside.

I happened to notice that there was one hanging on the fence and helpfully (or so I thought) informed her.
I'd picked it up to check the initials and she'd called out ' he's an STD...STD' I tried to surpress my laughter but the other parents (because she had called out the initials so loudly), couldn't stop laughing.
She asked me why, so I told her what the initials also stood for and she just stood there shouting at me calling me an evil bitch!!
I felt really humiliated and it wasn't my fault.
Would you really logo up your child's kit with STD? Why put in the middle initial?

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JollyGiraffe · 17/01/2019 23:14

YWBU

Grow up

Singlenotsingle · 17/01/2019 23:17

It was a bit Ott to call you an evil bitch, but I can understand that it was tactless and inappropriate of you to make fun of the initials. I suppose it hadn't occurred to her that people would be so rude.

birdladyfromhomealone · 17/01/2019 23:17

She had no idea? really???

angelikacpickles · 17/01/2019 23:18

So you all laughed your heads off at her child's initials? You sound lovely and welcoming.

And I doubt she said "He's an STD".

YABU.

snappedandsharted · 17/01/2019 23:29

Are you 12?

KarmaStar · 17/01/2019 23:34

Yes you were.very.it will pass on to the other dc and her dc will end up the brunt of name calling.
Perhaps think next time.

Xmasbaby11 · 17/01/2019 23:36

So immature. I can't believe the others laughed - it's really not that funny.

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doritad · 17/01/2019 23:41

You sound horrible. Poor child :(

YeOldeTrout · 17/01/2019 23:42

I don't believe it was your fault, OP. (but I'm a favourite MN cunt, so what do I know?)

Beeziekn33ze · 17/01/2019 23:44

OP You could have shouted back 'This top is marked PFB' or whatever it actually was. No need for your laughing, show some respect.

BartonHollow · 17/01/2019 23:44

That was mean and immature

Think it and keep that thought to yourself ?

No problem

Say it and then when she didn't understand loudly explain and have all the parents laugh at her and her child's name ?

No!

Very unreasonable

Disquieted1 · 17/01/2019 23:45

I probably would've had a little giggle as well. A bit naff to say anything though, even if asked.
Poor boy. Imagine your mother shouting "He's an STD" at football practice. He will be taunted mercilessly: children are ruthless.

secretmetoo · 17/01/2019 23:45

She actually shouted “he’s an STD” ?? Those actual words? I can’t imaging saying that my child is a DOC. I think you’re embellishing ever so slightly.

Celebelly · 17/01/2019 23:49

Did she really say 'an STD'? Or more likely just 'He's STD'...

getawayslough · 17/01/2019 23:49

oh fuck off the lot of you posters here taking the mn moral high ground, the op naturally laughed as would most people-she did not make fun, she laughed at the innuendo. I know i would.

Ignore these posters op, you were only being human as were the parents and the mother sounds like a nutjob, she needs to get a sense of humour. YWNBU.

BlancheM · 17/01/2019 23:49

Dick.

CoastalLife · 17/01/2019 23:50

It depends what you mean by "tried to suppress my laughter". Did you laugh or not? If you did, that's really unkind and I'm not surprised she was upset, although her name calling, especially in front of kids, was bang out of order. If you actually didn't laugh or smirk or give any indication that you found it funny, then YANBU for answering a direct question truthfully. But it could have been handled with more tact. I think I would probably have just brushed it off "no idea what they are laughing at, anyway this is/isn't your DC's top..." and just move the conversation on to avoid her embarrassment and hurt feelings. The rest of them were really nasty to laugh, especially in front of the kids where they are essentially giving the green light for all their little darlings to pick on this poor kid for his initials.

SandAndSea · 17/01/2019 23:50

I'm finding it hard to believe a parent would use these initials and not realise. (Maybe English isn't their first language?) It was surely only a matter of time before the children noticed and started picking at him about it. I'm also finding it weird that she called you an evil bitch - it seems a huge over-reaction and doesn't match with my idea of someone who doesn't get the link with STD. So, on the one hand, she's all 'innocent' and on the other, she's quick to throw abusive terms at people. She sounds 'interesting'. I would give her a wide berth in future.

whyayeman · 17/01/2019 23:50

Oh come on to the pious posters - yes not ideal but initials STD? Of course it's going to be commented on! Get over yourselves

My initials equally equated to what was classed a sexual disease - HIV - bearing in mind I don't have HIV but I am named with those initials.

delboysskinandblister · 17/01/2019 23:52

She didn't think about his initials and the potential ramifications when she named him?? Shock That poor kid.

2littleguineas · 17/01/2019 23:53

You sound horrible.

SandAndSea · 17/01/2019 23:59

I'm finding this fascinating as there are so many possibilities here.

I'm thinking (atm) that maybe a normal reaction would have been for her to say, "I don't understand. Why's everyone laughing? ... STD?.. Oh no! I hadn't realised! I can see I'll have to change that, take the T out. Thanks for letting me know."

SillySallySingsSongs · 18/01/2019 00:01

You sound delightful Hmm