Long and short is, divorced highly abusive ex. its been as much of a nightmare since then as it was being married to him.
We are court ordered to agree all holiday dates but the end of January each year for the year ahead.
Ex has a habit of saying everything is obvious and simple when its really not. so I suggest how I see it working out (I mean, it is kind of obvious but it actually has to be verbalised or written down for us to agree!)
Ex then comes back with loads of time wasting bollocks.
Eventually he ends up asking me if I am in agreement with his suggestions (which are of course my original suggestions, but with the wording rearranged to look like his idea)
now, we have agreed to set dates during the summer holidays, he has had these dates in his possession for almost 2 weeks. He hasn't bothered to ask HR in that time if he can book them off. he has emailed me to say he will ask if they are available.
My AIBU is, if they aren't available and he comes back saying he can't get them off work... AIBU to say "that's your problem"??
Or should I bend over backwards to accommodate him with whatever dates he does say he can get??
rearranging our agreement based on his word?
(he could decide he wants different dates, knows I won't agree and say that's all he can get off from work, giving me no choice!)
First year we've had to do this.
This is hypothetical as he hasn't come back claiming he can't get the dates, but I will eat my hat if he doesn't. because that's the sort of shit he does.