To be angry about social services..

[baba19]

Hi everyone i am a young mum and i am nearly 16 weeks pregnant with my first,
Today i had two workers come around my house who i've never met before, apparently they are there for support if you need any with housing and health things ect
Anyway, they asked me if i had been involved with social workers before when i was younger, (which i have) when i was about 15 i was groomed and had social worker until i was 18 and they said that i was safe from harm, i was no longer at risk and that i was keeping myself safe and there was no need to have social services any longer, the ladies told me today that they understand i am no longer at risk, but they have to call social services for my unborn baby, to do 'checks' and see if i need a social worker for my baby! What the fuck?
I would not put my baby at risk! And i would not put myself at risk either!
My case was closed when i was 18 because they no longer thought that i needed support anymore as i was doing so well!
I had a hard time when i was younger with the social, i don't want a social worker involved with me and my baby, when there is no concern what so ever! Feel really upset about this, i have a lot of support from family, i have my own house and i am looking after myself!
Aibu to be really upset and angry?
I need a social worker for my unborn baby because years ago i was groomed?!
Sounds fucking ridiculous to me!
I have a new life now, i haven't been groomed since and i'm doing well
So what do i need a social worker coming round for ??
Don't know what to do, just hoping that when the social services decided that they don't need to open up a new case and that i'm fine ( which i am) to be left alone without them!

I am sure you will be fine OP. SW just have a duty to you given you were involved with them up until you were 18.

It a standard question on your midwife booking in appointment form at hospital trust I have been to. It is because parents who have previously been involved with SS as children/young people are more likely to need extra help with parenting because they are not always as lucky as you to have lots of support. It’s just a box ticking exercise to check if you are OK and to see if you need any extra help because parenting is very difficult.

Statistically, people who needed support as a child are more likely to have children who need support. They won't want to hang around you when they see you are ok, they just want to head off trouble before it starts, just in case.

Children who have SW involvement may not have had good parent role models. Children who were abused may not know what good boundaries are, or what normal looks like. As soon as they know you and your baby are ok, they'll leave you be.

It will be an open/shut case as long as there is nothing else still keeping you vulnerable (which would have to be a lot even then). As long as you're open and tell like it is then there won't be an issue, at most they'd put you in touch with children centre staff (early help) I imagine incase you need any extra support. As long as you keep your antenatal appointments and engage with staff who are involved with your baby it will all go away. Remember you know you are fine but how are they meant to know this if they don't talk to you, they just have a duty of care to your baby to check you are fine. Social worker don't have time to help people who are genuinely fine so don't worry.

awful twisted people

They have a habit of being very negative and report display 'the facts' in an unrealistic way alluding to everything being worst case scenario

Really? All 96,571 registered social workers in England? I doubt that very much.

I'd be very wary and careful what you say if they contact you, awful twisted people

Yes! Be careful with the fuckers. Most are incompetent.

Congrats on your pregnancy.

I can understand why you’re angry. It must have been a big shock to have them turn up.

From their point of view a young woman who was groomed as a child is now pregnant. They have a duty of care to you and your baby to make sure that you are both ok.

They needed to check that you were still safe. If you are open and engage with them they will go away reassured that everything is ok.

I can understand your fear but it is normal, if youv had as in your life as a child as will have to be informed.

They will likely call for a chat and close it if they are happy, but please don't lose your temper or work against them as your attitude will just show that your unable to Think rationally and will be more likely involved

As arnt monsters, if they can offer help with things, take them up on it.

Who are these women that are providing support?

Within the trust I work in it is standard practice to do a background check on anyone who discloses, or is suspected of having, social care involvement (be it past or present). Maybe this is just what they mean? As opposed to them referring in to open up a case.

It’s usually just a fact finding task and when the background check shows the case as closed, that’s the end of the matter unless something new has been brought up.

I'd be very wary and careful what you say if they contact you, awful twisted people

Yes! Be careful with the fuckers. Most are incompetent

These are both completely inappropriate posts, lacking in compassion for the OP. Why would you post in a way designed to increase her anxiety and anger about her situation.

I have a support worker because of my past and I just had my first baby, social services were very briefly involved- literally just to see that I was ok, I was supported by family etc, was there anything I needed help with. They gave me loads of into about local groups and services and were very nice, friendly women. They soon signed me off when they realised I was fine, which it sounds like you are too. Don't worry. They're not having a go at you personally, it's just their job. They certainly weren't twisted, didn't cause any trouble and didn't judge me.

I had a social services assessment last year when pregnant because of my previous dealings with them when I was a child/teenager.

The SW was lovely, she was satisfied I was doing well and said there was no need for them to be involved so closed the case and wished us well.

Please don't worry x