Hiding stress from your kids

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How do you do it? It's kind of mid level worries. Money is a constant issue, I am always just about managing, but I find it really stressful. If an unforseen bill comes in it throws all the careful budgeting completely. And just work and general life stresses.
But I really really do not want to take it out on my kids (which I did a little bit earlier ) Eg, I'm stressed about work situation and car bill, and I shout at the kids for not getting coats on and into the car quickly. I'm a cow. They're quite young, and I just don't want to be that kind of mother.
So how do you cope with stress without taking it out on your completely blameless kids?? (Bit of a ramble, sorry!)

Also not really AIBU, I'm addled

It can be helpful to allocate some "worrying time", say 15 mins after the kids are in bed. But then you have to make a big effort to put worries out of your head at other times. Worrying will not help!

I think everyone is effected by their stress sometimes. I think it's important to model apologising if you were unfair and also let the kids see you engaging in self-care.

Youre not a cow, if you were you wouldnt A) care if you snapped at your kids or B) be asking for advice. Take a deep breath before you react and if you do snap explain when your calm why you snapped and apologise, children need to know adults can make mistakes too. Be kind to yourself OP

It's impossible to hide stress from kids. They pick up on it through our behaviour and verbal/non-verbal communication.
All we can do is manage it.
I've yelled at my DD when I've been particularly stressed or tired and she's been hardwork. I usually end up apologising.
However, I don't feel it's bad for my DD to see that Mum is a human being, who reaches the end of her tether.

I struggle not to wear my emotions on my sleeve but do try to hide how stressed I am from the kids.

Saying that, I think it’s important that kids also realise that there are days when outside life intrudes and mummy can’t be all singing all dancing. Yesterday was one of those days for me and the kids were told mummy needed peace and quiet and “no messing”.

OK, thanks so much for the replies. I feel a bit less crap about it all now. I had quite an angry mum, who in hindsight was actually stressed about other things. But for years I thought she was angry because I was awful and she hated me (she didn't) Maybe I was just a particularly egocentric kid?? Whenever she got mad I thought it was all my fault. I would hate my kids to feel like that. I do apologise when I shout. Would rather it didn't happen at all though.

I don't really. I'm exhausted and don't get down time (LP, little sleep, work is hectic).

That's it Meggle, it's the relentless hamster wheel. When I'm rested I do generally have a different perspective and don't feel so overwhelmed. Lack of sleep does crazy things to the mind