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Please don't talk at me about cars

39 replies

almutasakieun · 16/01/2019 17:56

That's one of my "interests" on my online dating account.
In the last four weeks, I've had NOTHING but men who are either mechanics, car salesmen or in love with their own cars message me!
Today, I get a guy sending me a video of a car race. I asked him what it was. He tells me he's the guy in the yellow car (there are 4 yellow cars).
Why? Fucking why? These are not people who have not read my profile either as at the very bottom I've disclosed something that they all have mentioned to me.
WHY? WHY? fUCKING WHY? I don't care about cars!!!!!!!!! Stop talking to me about cars!!!!! Oh God, I just want to shout!

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almutasakieun · 16/01/2019 17:58

It's like they read my bloody profile which clearly states 'don't talk to me about cars' and they then decide, 'Hey, I must message her!'.

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IncomingCannonFire · 16/01/2019 17:58

I think I'm missing something. You listed one of your interests as cars. But it's not one of your interests? Just amend your profile.

Finfintytint · 16/01/2019 17:59

Desperate men trying to find a common interest. If you say you have an interest in cars then you'll attract those who like cars.

HariboLecter · 16/01/2019 17:59

They're probably not seeing the "don't" and think it's an interest of yours 🤷🏻‍♀️ Just remove that line?

almutasakieun · 16/01/2019 18:00

My interest is specifically listed as
Interests
Reading
Writing
Arithmetic
Not Cars. Please don't talk at me about cars.
Knitting.

What do they fucking do? Send me pics of their cars, tell me about their cars or now, fucking videos of them driving cars!!!!!!!!!!!

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Shoppingwithmother · 16/01/2019 18:02

Why would you mention cars if you don’t want them to mention it? If you don’t want to talk about cars.... then don’t!

Sexnotgender · 16/01/2019 18:03

They just see the word cars and that’s all that registers.

Try taking that out your profile.

almutasakieun · 16/01/2019 18:03

Oh look it. It's not going to kill me at the end of the day. But I just don't fucking get it. Maybe they're reading it as me being interested in cars. NOT CARS.

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 16/01/2019 18:03

They're just seeing car and think wahey.

Remove the comment and you won't be pestered anymore!

Magicstar1 · 16/01/2019 18:04

I know a few men like that. If you ask them to buy a bar of chocolate and say “anything but coconut”, they’ll come back with a Bounty as all they remember is that you said coconut. Totally wrecks my head!

blueskiesandforests · 16/01/2019 18:04

Don't think about polar bears.

I said Don't think about POLAR BEARS.

Stop it 🐻

HumptyNumptyNooNoo · 16/01/2019 18:05

Oh I just want to show you a pic of my car now ! It's sooooo cool ! You'd like it ! It's four wheel drive !

almutasakieun · 16/01/2019 18:06

I added it as an interest NOT cars as one date nearly bored me to death talking about his job as a delivery driver. Honestly, I nearly cried. And now I seem inundated with them. I think you're right. Maybe they see the word 'car' and don't read the words around it. Thick fuckers! Lol.

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blueskiesandforests · 16/01/2019 18:07

Don't scratch your nose for the next 5 minutes.

Your nose is not tickling.

Don't scratch your nose.

You can scratch any other part of your face, but don't scratch your nose. Just your nose.

👃

Or think about polar bears.

Finfintytint · 16/01/2019 18:10

Have you had any responses re the knitting? Smile

almutasakieun · 16/01/2019 18:10

Humpty. I swear if I have to look at another photo of a fucking car, hear about their driving, or watch a fucking video of them driving a car, I'll just stand in front of a fucking car at this stage. Can men not read?

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horsesheep · 16/01/2019 18:10

Why's it bothering you to this extent? Are they only allowed to talk about your interests?

almutasakieun · 16/01/2019 18:12

Ok, it must be that I have NOT cars as one of my interests. And they think 'oh, she likes cars!'.
Well ladies, can I tell you, if any of you want a date, put cars down as an interest! They'll be fucking lining up to tell you all about their cars. *Cries.

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almutasakieun · 16/01/2019 18:13

It's bothering me as it seems to be their first opening conversation!!!

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Finfintytint · 16/01/2019 18:14

Cars= small penis or something lacking. Nah, give it a miss, thanks.

almutasakieun · 16/01/2019 18:15

I know nothing about cars! I have no interest in cars! I don't have a car. My only passing interest in cars extends to not getting run over. Fucking cars. Be the death of me on online dating.

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ShatnersBassoon · 16/01/2019 18:17

Why just not cars? What about not potholing, not amateur photography, not singing in a gospel choir?

blueskiesandforests · 16/01/2019 18:18

almutasakieun do other people put NOT interests on dating profiles? NOT knitting, for example?

Is there a keyword search on your site? Are putting "cars" in as a keyword and you're the top result because the word is mentioned multiple times in your interests?

You could use it to screen out impulsive car obsessives who lack reading comprehension, but it would be easier just to delete that line.

Delivery driver might have been self rather than car obsessed.

PinkHeart5914 · 16/01/2019 18:18

Why is it even in your profile? Makes no sense tbh

List what you are in to, not need to mention what you aren’t interested in

almutasakieun · 16/01/2019 18:19

Because this one dude bored me almost to tears talking about his fucking car. So I came home from the date and added NOT CARS to my profile.

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