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To think it's not okay to video someone without their knowledge and post it online

17 replies

Deadsouls · 15/01/2019 19:21

So, rather trivial in comparison to tonight's momentous events but....to settle a disagreement between a friend and I. What are people's thoughts?

Friend posted a video of a recording she made of a woman dancing in a station whilst listening to music on her headphones. You can partially see the woman's face. The video is harmless in that is not making fun of the woman or defamatory in any way. However, it is clear that the woman is unaware she is being filmed, much less being posted on someone's fb page.
Personally I think the right thing to so is to ask permission to post online or film. I asked friend if she had asked permission.
Friend thinks it's harmless and okay.
I don't think it's okay.

Interesting ethical issue. Aside from the fact that we are being filmed the whole time by cctv, I still believe that one should obtain consent.

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coldcoldcoldcold · 15/01/2019 19:23

I'm not comfortable with that. Fair enough she was dancing in a public space, but she didn't consent to being filmed and posted online, so it's not OK in my books

VictoriaBun · 15/01/2019 19:26

Not ok.
We all have days where we would rather fade into the woodwork and pretend we are not there. In the same way, this woman was caught up in a private moment and should not have that recorded for others to view. How would your friend react if someone recorded her or posted her child ?

Bumblebee39 · 15/01/2019 19:26

Omg that's like my worst nightmare makes me not want to leave the house....

Duckherding · 15/01/2019 19:29

Why has the video been posted. Sounds like bullying to me

Edgeworth · 15/01/2019 19:29

I think it's creepy.

ScreamingValenta · 15/01/2019 19:30

Is it someone she knows?

araiwa · 15/01/2019 19:31

Public space

robininbrum · 15/01/2019 19:35

Not cool no. Probably not illegal though.

I know someone whose husband films her when she is not looking - putting the washing out and getting the shopping out of the car and suchlike, then shows it her after and says 'lol U look so funneh!' Grin (Not often but maybe 4-6 times a year or so... just for a laff. )

She is overweight - size 18 and 5 ft 3, and very unhappy with it, and by her own admission, looks rather dumpy, and not great in pics. So him videoing her really stresses her out. He even said to her once 'I'll delete that one as it's not very flattering really IS it?'

Cunt. Now THAT'S what I call bullying. Hmm

Deadsouls · 15/01/2019 19:56

No it's not someone she knows, Just a member of the public.

It's not illegal because it's not misrepresenting or defamatory or anything like that. Personally I would HATE that. For all I know, it's already happened Shock paranoid...

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Firesuit · 15/01/2019 20:00

I think that's OK. You're allowed to film anything that you find interesting in public places including the public.

I think it makes it more OK that it was a stranger, it's unlikely anyone who knows the stranger will see it.

TheMarbleFaun · 15/01/2019 20:04

Creepy & weird
Not illegal though

ballsdeep · 15/01/2019 20:05

It's disgusting. What right does she have to film a unknowing person and put it all over her social media. It boils my piss

BlueJava · 15/01/2019 20:12

I think if you make a general video (e.g. street scene) and someone walks thruogh in the distance it's ok. To video someone doing something specific and post it then not ok.

Floralhousecoat · 15/01/2019 20:18

Yanbu. This would be my worst nightmare.

What do you mean by tonight's momentous events? Is something going on? Genuine question as I don't watch news much.

Deadsouls · 15/01/2019 20:35

floralhousecoat
😁 brexit vote?

firesuit I understand, but why not just ask the person if it's okay to post?

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worridmum · 15/01/2019 20:46

you are out in public you have not right to privacy in public as you are not in a place were you can reasonable expect privacy (aka toilet or changing room etc).

Legally you can film / photograph anyone and everyone in "public spaces" were there is no expectation of privacy, as creepy as it is you can also stand a street and film children entering and leaving said street or school as long as you are not filming them on school property (since that is classed as private property).

So if you are running in the street naked, being highly offencive or doing some highly embarrsing anyone and everyone can legally record you and you have very little right to stop it or prevent.

(Basically do not do anything you would not like to be forever recorded in public because you do NOT have a right to pricvey in public.)

Floralhousecoat · 15/01/2019 20:59

Thanks op. Tbh I think I've zoned out of the whole brexit issue. My mind can't take any more.

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