To feel sorry for the mum in the letter?

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www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/jan/12/letter-to-my-thoughtless-mother-brag-of--starving-yourself

The poor woman only said she used to save her school dinner money to buy more interesting things. Surely everyone did this at some point as a teenager? But the daughter was so shocked she couldn’t speak. When she finally got over the shock she wrote a letter to The Guardian detailing the traumatic incident.

Before I get flamed for being heartless I have struggled with ED’s for the last decade but I would struggle to be even vaguely ruffled by that comment.

A bit OTT

if you have a family member that haa suffered with an ed you have to learn to be incredibly careful and sensitive to look out for the sufferer.and yes we all say ignorant things sometimes but I can see how it could hurt a the time when you wish your mum would know better by now.

Agree with you OP. Not ideal. Bit stupid in front of teenage girls. But the endless outrage and victim hood is so damaging. What happened to - oh Lordy here she goes again, with an optional eye roll.

I bought fags with mine too. And sometimes make up. My mum found out and stopped the lunch money giving me a packed lunch instead. It wasn't the not eating that bothered her, more the deceit. Isn't this just teenage behaviour in less enlightened times?

I'm with the daughter. My mum was hospitalised for anorexia as a teenager and it has never completely gone. I rarely saw her eat as a child. I am now 33 and she keeps telling me to tell my psychiatrist that I'm to come off the antidepressants as they're making me fat (I'm a size 14). Thinness was the ideal throughout my childhood; being fat or even chubby was disgusting. My DSis was anorexic as a teenager; I was bulimic.

DM keeps telling me to get 15 month old DS weighed more regularly in case he's too heavy. He was recently off his food as he was ill and she said it was a good thing he had extra meat on him - he is actually lean for his height. I just pray to God none of this gets into his head when he's older.

My sister in law is always shocked that my 80-year old FIL hasn't yet become a feminist, same sort of thing.

i am with the letter writer. Its saying "win-win" if she had said she did that but regretted it or it was a silly thibg to do then fine but "win-win" when both you and your daughter have had eating disorders.

AgentCooper what you have written has shocked me. Poor you and your sister I really hope you manage to limit your mother's contact with your children.

Her daugher had an ED and she brags about not having lunch in front of her granddaughters.

I'd be furious too.

What happened to - oh Lordy here she goes again, with an optional eye roll.

Seriously? The people saying the daughter as OTT are clueless. If you almost died from anorexia most likely as a result of views inherited from your mother you wouldn't just react with an eye roll. No way in hell.