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AIBU?

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Hiralda · 15/01/2019 12:59

5 of us joined together a few years back in my workplace, not best friends but get on fairly well. About a year ago, we decided to start buying bday presents for each member of the group contributing £25 each a time (pricey I know) - each person for a pres of about £100. I’m less close to the group members but always included in things generally and no one has any problems with me. We have had three birthdays so far although presents not given on the day (sometimes a week or two later doeneding on everyone’s whereabouts)... I have just shelled out for two (50 quid) and suddenly struck me it was my birthday a week ago and haven’t heard anything... I know you don’t give to receive and I was out the office that whole week but feeling a little perturbed. I feel like there is still time but equally will be so hurt if not even a card. Aibu?

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SilverDoe · 15/01/2019 13:01

Gosh that’s a lot of money! Too much to let go tbh. Perhaps casually throw into conversation what you did for your birthday last week, the amazing restaurant you went to for your birthday last week, wear the lovely perfume that you got for your birthday last week, if you get my drift :)

Hiralda · 15/01/2019 16:32

It is isn’t it! Gah thanks, I agree... I have done so we will see

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Bellasorellaa · 15/01/2019 16:33

i didn't even spend that on my niece and nephew for their birthday
£10 max that should be, i would even say £5

recently · 15/01/2019 16:34

Are you sure they know when your birthday is?

Maelstrop · 15/01/2019 16:59

Are you closer to one of them than the others? Ask her!

RonaldMcDonald · 15/01/2019 17:01

Make a joke of it

Didntwanttochangemyname · 15/01/2019 17:05

Oh god I'm in exactly this situation too! I've moved away, and still contributing to joint gifts but I've not heard a peep out of them for my birthday last week.

I am a bit hurt, but decided that it must be a case of 'out of sight, out of mind' and I'll stop contributing to the joint gifts.

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