To ask how many couple friends you have?

[Lovingit81]

I'm interested to know how many 'couple' friends people have. As I've got older (I'm 37) my friendship group has dwindled a bit and we don't seem to have many couple friends. My DH has some good friends and colleague and so do I but we have about four main couple friends and I would like more! I'm considering bullying my DH into joining some extra curricular activities to make friends Am I mad??

One. I’ve never really thought about it or felt like we need more. I have my friends, husband has his, we both get on with each other’s so we’ve never felt the need to seek out more couple friends.

No couple friends here- my friends and his friends- sometimes mix at a birthday etc but otherwise my friends and his separate - works for me

Hmm we have people who we socialise with occasionally but friends are mostly separate. I quite like it that way. DH and I spend loads of time together so my friends are my chance to go out and spend time apart.

Well.... between us we have 3 maybe 4. But I wouldn't necessarily say that they are couple friends. 3 I am friends with the female, 1 he is friends with the male. We sometimes hang out as families and couples. But if it came down to it we are not equally close to both. Tbh I prefer it that way. The awkwardness if one of us fell out with one of the couple.... or if we fell out but separately stayed friends with the couple....

Why does it matter whether your friends are in couples or single? Surely liking them and enjoying their company is the main thing?

None. We had one, but they divorced (I'm still friendly with her, though, although not close). All my and DH's friends are single these days.

None. In fact my husband has a few work mates here but I only have one friend (new area). I've never really done the "couples" thing so don't know if we're missing out or not.

Wish we had more. I'd like Dh & I to go out for dinner/pub/curry/pizza more with another couple.

None.

Most of our friends are joint. Couples who we’ve grown up with as we entered adulthood, others who have children our children have grown up with, neighbours from now and previous homes, couples we know through church. A few from present and past jobs where we’ve become friends as couples. We rarely go out in the evening without the other and usually go to or with couples. Friends of one of us are usually ‘day time friends’ - coffee, lunch etc rather than evenings. Weekends away is either whole families (parent couples and young adult children with/without partners) or couples friends. Just arrived back from a long weekend in Italy visiting our daughter with another couple.

Most of our couple friends are very longstanding- we’re talking decades.

We have 2. My best friend and her DH, and another friend with her DP. It’s only a recent arrangement, but we have couples evenings where we eat good food, drink, and play games. It’s great! We’re only a small group but we all get on great and have a right laugh!

No couple friends, and absolutely no desire on either side to cultivate them.

Five.

We have about 6 or 7 couple friends that we go for weekends with or on holidays abroad, usually with all the kids. We each have our own friends too. I love couple friends, makes weekends so much nicer.

Not a one.

1. And they live abroad! It's not something we do really although we both have friends of our own. I don't really know how you even go about having couple friends it just doesn't seem to be a thing for us

None. I have friends who are in couples and we all meet up at weddings etc so the men will change etc but they aren’t friends just because their girlfriends are. I socialise with my friends and dp with his. Why are you so bothered about “couple friends.”

Thinking about it my mum and step dad don’t have “couple friends” either

Men will chat, rather! Not change. Why can’t people in. Pulled invite single people over for dinner? I’m a bit confused by all of this

We don’t really do couple friends. My DH has met my friends partners and we occasionally all go out together but he is not friends with them independently and vv.

To be honest I would hate the expectation that I have to befriend someone’s wife just because my husband is friends with her husband.

Quite a few. My husband has a good group of friends and I get on really well with their wives so we all socialised together for 10 years or so (I'm 29), the boys go out separately to. My friends are my friends, their husbands are all very different and my husband has no wish to mix but does get on with them at weddings and kids parties

As we've got older we've accumulated a few more although I had to think about it because I've never considered them separately from other friends

There's 2 friends that have met their partners recently but both have just slotted into our friendship group easily

So yeah, 4 couple friends in our group but it's not a very big group and I don't have many close friends

Most of our friends are couples. When we have parties it is all couples and often their grown up children who come.

Yep, mostly separate friends here too. In my experience men are much less interested in making and maintaining new friendships than women are.

I'm not interested in having male friends (nothing personal, I just like the company of women better) so I wouldn't be doing the "legwork" of calling / chatting / texting men to get the friendship off the ground on my husband's behalf if you know what I mean. We often meet couples, all get on well, I'll strike up a friendship with the woman and start meeting up, going for coffees etc but the husbands are perfectly happy to just be friendly when they might happen to meet and otherwise not stay in touch. Feels totally natural to me that all my friends are women, I like their husbands well enough but they aren't my friends.