To be annoyed at my partner...

[Sunnydays19]

We have 2 DC. DD2 (just turned) and DS 5months. I'm currently in maternity leave so am home with the children..
From my partners point of view it is a "jolly" being at home all day and most of time he will return from his work day (around 4pm) and wonder why the house is (usually) upside down with toys everywhere.. dishes to be washed, clothes to be hung (General household chores). He will then wonder "what is for dinner" and will want to just sit down and relax after his "hard days work".

This really pisses me off. I'm currently BF DS so I am up in the night with him, I also see to DD if she wakes. I'm knackered in the day and sometimes I just want to sit with my children and play not run around tidying up after them all day.
I also go out to see friends so some housework is left to be done in the evenings.

Not really sure what I'm asking but I hope I'm not the only one who feels like this.

When he gets in at 4pm hand both children over and go and have a bath and read a book for 2 hours.

When he wonders what ia for dinner ask him what he is making?

@shalomjackie I can't remember the last time I had 2 hours to myself.

I'm just needing a moan really. DS won't take a bottle either and it's bloody exhausting just feeding him. I know DP thinks what I do is easy and it is sometimes. Would love to swap roles for a week!

Does he do anything in the house?

Maternity leave is to care for a newborn, not to be a domestic slave. He needs to pull his weight.

And the housework in the evenings...does he pitch in?

@sexnotgender
He cleans the kitchen... and will tidy the lounge. But he doesn't do washing, fold his clothes/put away, cook dinner etc. He basically does what suits him..
I just feel really resentful that along with looking after our DC I'm lumped with all the housework stuff and general organising of the house..

It's v common. My dh worked away a lot since DC were each a few weeks old, so although he made some effort when home and he would take DC out if asked (which is v different from volunteering!) they were EBF too so it was never a long break, and he didn't really notice the need for that general housework to be done by himself. Because I should have enough time in the day. And if I didn't, well, you're not supposed to knock yourself out running round when baby naps... So it would get left.

A variant on your post pops up regularly. Your complaint is valid, and not unreasonable. But unless you can persuade him to change his outlook and attitude now, you'll have related problems up til the DC leave home!