To say something because she never says thank you

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Have a friend who has had a birthday and Christmas gift from me recently and hasn't said thanks or communicated in any way about them. She literally took one bag from me and didn't look at all interested.

(Side note- money has been a bit tight so her Christmas gifts were hand made bath bombs and soap along with some nice chocolates. All things she claims to love.)

I dropped her birthday gift off yesterday (book she wanted, gift card for Costa because she's always in there and some make up she'd been hinting at) and again she took the bag and didn't seem interested in it at all.

She normally buys me a massive amount of stuff that I usually end up donating so I'm wondering if she feels like I'm not buying her enough? Or maybe she's just ride and ungracious? It's not hard to say thank you, is it?

It’s def not hard to say thank you! She’s being so rude and ungrateful. Maybe this year is the year to wind back the gifts?

I can hear my late Mother saying, 'Well, you'll know better next time!'.

To be honest I probably wouldn't say anything. It's not going to do anything good for your relationship. Just stop giving her anything. She will hopefully stop too and then you are all done.

Seriously, you donate what she has given you and she takes a bag from you with little interest - time for the both of you to break the tyranny of gifting. Have the talk.

Don't buy her gifts and don't accept any.
Gifting is supposed to bring happiness. You think she believes you don't buy enough and are mad she shows no gratitude. Is it worth the misery?

I'd cut right down on the gift giving, tbh. No point getting each other unwanted stuff that she doesn't appreciate and you and up donating just for the sake of exchanging "something". Do let her know beforehand, though, so she knows not to buy you anything.

I can't understand why people buy each other so many presents. Fair enough when you are guests to a birthday party, or for special occasions, but when it's becoming a chore, it's pointless.

Asking friends for something you want for your birthday is in CF territory, they are not your children, if adults want something, they buy it for themselves!

yes, she is very rude not to say thank you. You don't owe her anything. Next year, feel free to buy her a token present. If she spends more because she has more, it's her own choice. Maybe she'll stop, but who cares.

I have a friend like this. She's the most caring, thoughtful and kind woman I know...literally. BUT she will never acknowledge a gift....or say thank you.

I think she has difficulty accepting them and this is her way of coping.

Coming up to next Christmas & birthday just say that you'd rather not bother with exchanging gifts any more. If she asks why then say it's because she doesn't seem keen on what you give her. Just don't bother any longer - you're not keen on what she gives you, and she doesn't seem to appreciate your gifts. It's pointless.

Neither of you seem to appreciate the gifts you give each other, so probably time to stop doing it.

Thanks. I do appreciate the things she buys me but it's just too much (for example, she gave me three big notebooks for Christmas when I'm still working through the ones from last year.)

just give it up, neither of you seem to enjoy it.

I hate people not saying thank you.
I usually say, it's fine don't mention it, they think for a minute, look confused and cotton on eventually.