To ask for a hand hold for today.

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Today is my first appointment at the recurrent miscarriage clinic.

I have put this off for a long time because frankly, I'm shitting it but rightly so, DH has insisted it's time.

I don't usually ask for help or support IRL. I like to get on with things and put on a brave face but I'm struggling today. I don't know if I want to be told. I don't like the thought of discussing our 'chances' with someone.

Sending un mumsnetty hugs. Moving forward is the only thing you can do in life and all information is going to be helpful in some way.

Big hugs to you. Hope today goes well for you both. X

Unmumsnetty hug from me too

The hardest step was making the appointment so you are most of the way there... treat yourself afterwards x

Thank you! It's the unknown. I'm a self confessed control freak and so this while situation has thrown me off completely.

I guess if I'm being honest, I'm very scared of hearing that my chances are slim. I've managed to keep the hope alive for a long time.

Don’t lose hope. but I know exactly how you’re feeling x

Best of luck op x

Fingers crossed for you. We’re with you. Good luck xxx

I'm not a big fan of holding hands but you can have a prayer and a supportive look if that helps?
Remember, even if someone says your chances are slim (or worse), that's not a cast-iron certainty that it won't happen - you could be the 1 in a 1,000 or 1,000,000, or even the 'miracle'. Keep hoping. If it's meant to be it will happen, whatever experts say or don't say.

RangeRider would be appreciative of anything anyone has to offer - thank you!

Hope it went okay yesterday (or as well as these things can).

Good luck OP I sure hope they can help you!!!

Have just seen this. It’s the first step on a new part of your journey. For what it is worth, I found them incredibly understanding. I hope it went well.

Hope it all went ok OP

Sending hugs and hope it all went ok, OP. I went to a recurrent miscarriage clinic in June. I had loads of bloods done, they found out I had APS (sticky blood) and now I'm 19 weeks pregnant. I know it's terrifying being studied and assessed but it's so worth it

Just seen this too - I can only hope and pray that you will receive the help you both deserve and not the fear you have expressed, and that the appointment was a positive step in your future.

Thinking of you OP

Biggest fingers and toes crossed here for you.

Sorry you’re going through this. Have been in that situation.

Recommend Prof Lesley Regan’s book on miscarriage, also the Royal College of Obs and Gynae guidance on tests, which summarises the various tests.

I initially attended a clinic (large, London teaching hospital) where the service was poor IME. Depending on what you think of the service, where you live, your means, and how you want to handle things you may decide to research options.

For example, there are specific blood tests for blood clotting conditions that increase pregnancy risks: some hospitals don’t test in the right conditions, leading to false negatives. My local mc clinic messed up my results and wouldn’t repeat the test (cost) and also had policies not to use certain tests - eg HSG for fallopian tubes / womb adhesions - again due to cost. I paid privately and went to St Mary’s in London, at that time they did take NHS referrals too. Happily I went onto have DC.

Thank you all. It went okay, they were very nice.

Of course it was just an initial conversation this time so no answers (obviously!) But it was nice to think that I was on the way to doing something about it though.

Had lots of blood take (surprised there is any left) and am going back for a scan to check my insides shortly!!

Glad they were nice OP :)

I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts. I can’t imagine what you’ve been through so far, but hopefully they’ll be able to find the cause and help you conceive a gorgeous little baby.

X