Birthday blues

[londonlass101]

A big birthday for me this year.. I'm dreading it. I know I'm lucky to be getting one, there's plenty of people not around any more who would love to have one more birthday but I just feel really depressed about it and can't stand people asking me all the time what I'm doing for it. I have nothing to celebrate or look forward to. I have anxiety and have had severe depression in the past which I struggle to control but put a positive front on. AIBU to not want a big fuss and just a small celebration the same as any other birthday? How do I stop people asking about it for the rest of the year without appearing rude?

How big is big? I was dreading my 30th, but when it came around it turned out to be great, then my 40th came around and I stayed in bed and cried all day lol. I don't think you ABU to not want to celebrate any differently to a "normal" birthday, it's your day after all. xx

Book yourself a night away, go to a city and get a cheap hotel, go see a movie and have a nice meal. Either alone or with a close friend. Then you have booked something special and when anyone asks you can say you are having a weekend away.

Had my 50th just over a week ago.
Never thought much about it until the day arrived. I'm now feeling pretty low, possibly the dark nights. But I can't seem to shake off the feeling that this time it really is ALL downhill!
Nothing more pathetic than a middle aged person trying to cling onto their younger selves.

It's knocked me for six
Hopefully the light evenings will come along and I'll forget all the silly nonsense of getting old.

I’ve banned anyone from mentioning it this year and god help anyone who tried to organise anything. It’s just ‘not me’ - I hate being the centre of attention at the best of times, and all of our friends have much younger wives/partners which makes me feel ancient to start with.

The young uns at work have eluded to it (god they are so young) but for god sake, age just happens (to us all) and all I’ve actually done is not die in the past year.

They talk about ‘old’ people (ie 40+) as if they are dothery old dears with one foot in the grave and the other on a banana skin.

Just keep that's all I really want to do!

Everyone seems to make such a fuss of each decade now, with celebrations, holidays, weekends away etc all that year. I don't know how they afford it or have so many groups of friends! I love other peoples birthdays just hate the fuss and pressure on my own at the best of times

Fatas that's a good idea, thank you

Lordprof that made me smile!

Mr Charlie I hope you feel better soon too 💐

This might not be helpful but I don’t give a shit about my birthdays and prefer for them to be treated like just another day. They are for kids I reckon.

The people in my office are obsessed with them; there is constantly a card to sign and presentations being made. Every time I wonder what the point or fuss is.

I suppose the cake is nice!