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To think he's too young and give up

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VelcroMummy · 13/01/2019 16:02

I've been trying for the last 2 hours to put DS (12 weeks) down for a nap in his Moses basket. Every time he either wakes straight away or within minutes, builds to a cry, gets picked up and falls asleep on me again. He will sleep in his moses overnight and nap in the mornings but for some reason will not be put down for an afternoon nap.

He's definitely tired as he drops off again almost straightaway on me when I pick him up. I'm trying to get him down in the basket so I can do other stuff around the house rather than have him sleep on me. DH has suggested I can't spend all afternoon in the bedroom but I think I may just need to stick it out for the next few days... but then wonder if he is just too young. He used to refuse to go down at all for naps but the morning put downs started a little ago on their own.

Should I keep trying or just accept he's too young and let him sleep on me?

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Thewifipasswordis · 13/01/2019 16:04

At 12w old he should still be napping about 3/ times a day Confused could he be pretty overtired?

Thewifipasswordis · 13/01/2019 16:05

3/4 times*

BabySharkAteMyHamster · 13/01/2019 16:08

My ds wasnt one for napping........he did sleep through at 6 weeks tho so couldnt have it both ways id guess. He spent the rest of his day on the boob or watching the world go by.

In your case though it sounds like he's over tired. Are you picking him up immediately when he starts crying ?? Try wrapping him up in one of your tshirts whilst your holiding him and if he starts crying stroke his nose instead of picking up straight away

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VelcroMummy · 13/01/2019 16:14

He falling asleep fine on me, just won't be put down

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VelcroMummy · 13/01/2019 16:15

Not immediately as he will wake overnight and the white noise puts him to sleep again. I've been trying for AGES so he certainly wasn't over tired when I started

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VelcroMummy · 13/01/2019 16:16

I'll try the nose thing tho!

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Lazypuppy · 13/01/2019 16:16

Can you bring the moses basket downstairs so he's sleeping in it but he can still hear/see you?

That's how i started it with my dd to get to nap off of me, and she was 10 weeks when i started

Km06 · 13/01/2019 16:21

Also try warming the mattress before putting baby in the cold can startle them awake I use to use the hairdryer or hoover for white noise to .x.x

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VelcroMummy · 13/01/2019 16:37

@lazypuppy I wasn't leaving the room

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slkk · 13/01/2019 16:37

Would a baby carrier work to help you get on while he sleeps on you?

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VelcroMummy · 13/01/2019 16:39

I've given up, he's having a feed and I'm gonna let him sleep on me. He was starting to get that over tired cry and my back was hurting from sitting on the edge of the bed. We're downstairs and on the sofa

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Lazypuppy · 13/01/2019 17:12

@VelcroMummy yes i know but if you move moses basket downstairs to lounge/kitchen wherever you need to get stuff done, then you can try cause you'll be in the same room as him, he may accept that and fall asleep

hammeringinmyhead · 13/01/2019 17:20

Mine (10 weeks) goes down in the living room in his bouncer chair with vibrate on. If I bounce him for 15 minutes or so he naps. I don't think he would flat on his back in a moses basket though - too quiet and boring!

Dutch1e · 13/01/2019 17:34

I think you're both doing brilliantly if it's just the one held-nap each day at 12 weeks. Is it feasible to think of it as your enforced couch time each day and prep a snack/drink/book/phone beforehand?

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VelcroMummy · 13/01/2019 17:46

@Lazypuppy ohhhhh! I'll try that tomorrow.

@hammeringinmyhead I have one of those chairs but he won't sleep in it

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VelcroMummy · 13/01/2019 17:48

@Dutch1e it isnt. I don't have any kind of routine with him yet, just led by when we wants to wake eat and sleep.so I can't way how many he has on me but it's all the afternoon ones...

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altiara · 13/01/2019 17:50

Is it too small for him now? Mine didn’t last much more than 6-8 weeks.

Dutch1e · 13/01/2019 17:53

@VelcroMummy I understand... both my kids were horror babies and were basically in-arms until they somehow learned to crawl. Do give yourself a pat on the back for your baby being so good the rest of the night/day, you're doing something right Flowers

AvoidingMarking · 13/01/2019 18:04

A sling? I used to wear mine round the house with daughter asleep but could still move around if I needed to.

Redcliff · 13/01/2019 18:10

I don't think DS2 slept without me till he was about 3 months - I would give up.

JudasPrudy · 13/01/2019 18:10

My baby was like this, I think he didn't like sleeping on his back. He's nearly 2 now and has always slept prone since he was strong enough to roll over. Tbh I just accepted that he wanted to sleep on top of me, it's only for a few months. Make sure you're trying to get him down regularly so he's not overtired ie 2 hours after his last wake.

pinguwings · 13/01/2019 19:04

A sling. Mine slept wonderfully in it and I could get so much done. She was about 5/6months before she would go down for a nap not in me, it will happen in time

NorthernRunner · 13/01/2019 19:09

Sleepyhead was our daytime saviour. Our daughter slept amazingly well at night but seemed less happy to nap during the day. We got into the habit of my husband bottle feeding her and putting her in the sleepyhead and that seemed to work 🤷🏻‍♀️

SchoolNightWine · 13/01/2019 19:26

Mine are much older now, so I'd say...if you can spare the time, cuddle, relax and enjoy every single minute of it. The time really does go too quick and they're teenagers before you know it!
I know it's not easy when you see all the jobs that need doing around you, but if you can ignore them and just enjoy that

SchoolNightWine · 13/01/2019 19:27

...time together, it will do you both the world of good:-)