DM is wonderful and has been a good mother but....
For a multitude of reasons, including financial pressures, family Illness and sibling (mild) disability, I have always been a low priority (this is acknowledged).
I’ve understood and accepted this - everybody needs her more than I do and she is reluctant to outsource any of it!
The issue is, I’ve recently come to realise that I’m so low down on her priority lists she will prioritise ‘catching up on TV’ before me!
It’s hard as she spends Sooo much of her time with everyone else - including my sibling!!
DP has pointed out to me that I give FAR more than I take - although he ‘understands’ why!
In the rare moments that I have her attention DM is lovely but is consistently VERY late/cancels last minute/ doesn’t let us know what’s happening/has to rush off to do something else and repeats this at 20 minute intervals!
I’m now getting married and DM has retired so talked a big game about how involved she would be - so far... 😂ðŸ˜
She has contributed a bit financially (we did not ask for this) but is TOTALLY unreliable - we had plans for today and I rang her this morning (she never rings me) then she told me she had made other plans with my sibling and therefore couldn’t guarentee when she’d be free to see me! And she would ‘only have an hour or two’ - despite us having plans for ages!!
The second I try to address this - I’m the bad guy who pays no attention to how much she does! She told me this morning that she’s fed up of me ‘complaining’ about how unreliable she is and that I need to ‘watch myself’ being so critical of others.
DP likes her a lot but is fed up of her rocking up 4 hours later than planned - with no notice!