Hi alL
Been with OH 12 years now.....
now before the title makes me sound ungrateful, my mum ALWAYS gets my OH something for his birthday, a card or usually £10 or a 4 pack of lager, something. His parents are awful and want nothing to do with him, haven’t for years, so he doesn’t get a card or anything usually only off me and my mum and the kids. Suddenly this year she got him nothing, not even a card. She didn’t forget as she came to my house as he was leaving for work and wished him a happy birthday.
For Xmas I usually buy her a voucher or she picks something she would like in a clothes shop, we hadn’t got round to it so she said it was fine and to buy her something when we next went shopping, we have been shopping once since then and she didn’t find anything she liked so her own words were to get something next time. I’m starting to wonder if because I still owe her a present she’s decided not to bother with my OH.
Now usually I would let it slide and just let it go but it’s really upset and bothered my OH he can’t understand why. She’s talking to him like normal etc. She can be a bit sulky though and we did give her a laundry basket we didn’t use anymore, she asked OH could he put it up but he’s been so busy with work he hasn’t had chance to nip round yet, she was a bit funny about that. I just can’t understand why she’s not bothered this year.
My mum has three sons who do nothing at all for her, my OH does an awful lot for her, she had a car accident a few months ago and he took care of everything, talking to insurance, sorting car out, talking to the other driver etc etc. Can’t understand it. She treats her sons lovely even though they don’t give her the time of day, but after everything he does he can’t even get a lousy card? Would you ask or just let it go?
Just to add so not drip feeding, she’s not short of money and we always buy her a present or take her for a meal for her birthday so it can’t be that either....