To tell dc not to wake us unless...?

[Yoghurtinmehair]

My husband thinks I’m unreasonable and harsh to want to teach our 9 y/o not to wake us early (like 6am) unless there’s a good reason e.g. she is sick, bleeding, there’s a fire, a flood, etc etc. This is what I was taught with my parents and to me it’s about growing up and learning to respect others. Hubby thinks I’m unreasonable. I think it would be unreasonable if dc was say, 5, but by 9 I think it’s acceptable. Opinions please!

Im talking weekends by the way!

You are being entirely reasonable. He is not.

Yanbu

Well if dh is fine with it then he can do all the early weekend starts can't he?

My dc have digital clocks in their bedrooms. They can read in bed from x time but Arent allowed to wake us before Y time.

Totally not harsh. Give them a clock and say at 7am (or whatever time would be appropriate) they are allowed out their room and to come and wake you. A 9 year old can entertain themselves with a book for half an hour or play on their own

Completely reasonable. Mine know not to come in to me too early and youngest is now starting to tell the time. Didn't stop her deciding half five this morning was a great time to be awake though.

Sounds more than reasonable. By that age they should be more than capable of entertaining themselves til you get up

If he’s unwilling to make the effort to teach this basic level of manners for a 9 yr old, he can get up. Just teach dc that only daddy can be disturbed.

We started that at age 3 tbh when we gave the kids an alarm clock and they hadn't to come through until it said 7:00

My mum had a rule like this growing up and it was nice for us. We weren’t allowed in her room (unless emergency) when the door was fully closed. If it was slightly open we could pile in and get in bed with her. Often Saturday and Sunday mornings at a more reasonable time of about 8/9 ish!

God no, my children have never woken us when they get up. They go downstairs, pop the tv on and sit quietly until we get up. Sometimes my DD will do herself cereal but quite often they wait for us. We are never up much later than 8 but there’s no way I’d be waking and getting up at 6. They have done this since they were 4.

YANBU. A 9 year old should be able to entertain themselves in a morning for an hour or two before disturbing everyone else. Had you said 4/5 year old then that'd be different. If your DH thinks you're unreasonable, perhaps suggest he gets up at 6am every weekend with child while you roll over & enjoy more sleep

Would she watch morning TV? It was a big thing for my siblings and I to get up on our own and watch morning tv. We had to be quiet or our parents would come up and turn it off (now I know they used it to get a lie in

YANBU - my oldest has been getting up and reading / playing / putting the TV on since she was 5. She can get herself & her sister breakfast now as well. It's great!

If they don't do it now, when are they going to do it? Still be a teenager and be waking their parents up to come downstairs with them? 9 is plenty old enough.

We taught our then 3 year old not to wake us before 7am (with a gro clock, he couldn’t read the time).

You are sooooo not being unreasonable.

By 5/6 I think they can help themselves to cereal and switch the telly on.

Even my nearly 4 year old knows this! She doesn’t come in to wake us at the weekend unless it’s light outside. She’ll play in her room or read books until then. Just today she came in when it was dark, I told her to go downstairs and turn on the lights (new build with low light switches) and I’d be down in 5 minutes. I fell back asleep and when I came down about an hour later, she was sitting on the couch practicing her writing and watching ceebeebies! I knew she could turn the tv on but I didn’t know she knew how to work the bloody sky box. Always said I thought she’d been here before. Wee smart arse

Yanbu. I taught my children this at a young age, they could either watch TV quietly till I got up, or go back to sleep in own bed or get in with me and sleep.

Even my autistic daughter got this as she was up late anyway or didn't sleep at all.

Even toddlers around 2 can be taught to be quiet or go back to sleep just tell them it's still night.

Nope you are NBU, this morning our 9 year old got up and made him and his sister (5) breakfast (cereal) and they sat and watched a film and did some Colouring before we got up at 8ish! Even our 5 year old will come
Into our room for a cuddle and if I am tired I can ask her to play in her room for 30 mins or so while I just half snooze.

yanbu! My 6 and 3 year old play in their room for a bit before coming in! I'm usually awake anyway but it's nice to have a bit of time to wake up on my own.