My nephew is 1. His birthday is 3 days before Christmas day. So I had bought him a present for both, of course.
His birthday present I had bought in september (there was an offer on in this particular store so I started Christmas shopping early) I asked his mum and my brother if this present was ok to buy for him and they said yes. They even picked me up and took me home as it is very large. It's a table with a train set on top and some storage drawers underneath.
Mid November they were at my house, and brothers girlfriend said "oh I think my mum has bought him the same present as you did" She showed me a photo and yes, it's almost exactly the same. She said her mum asked if she could buy it and said yes, forgetting I had already bought one. I said well can she return it for something else? As there's no point in having two of the same thing. She didn't want to upset her mum, So I said I'll return mine then and get something else, they insisted that I didn't do this and that they would sell the other one as the one I bought was apparently a bit better 
over the n3xt couple of weeks I asked another 2 times If they wanted me to return it and they said no.
That present is still in my house. They took his Christmas present and their own presents but left this one and said there was no room in the car. They sent a picture of my nephew about a week ago, in the backround I can see they have set up the train table that her mum bought. I asked why, as they said they weren't keeping it and they said that they were just using it for now, and going to throw it and use mine when they get a new house (they are going to be moving soon) This literally makes absolutley no sense to me. Why do this? It's such a waste of a good toy. Anyway we have all argued because the girlfriend is a trouble maker and they have blocked everything from me. Although they will be in contact soon enough when they have no money again because they always are. I don't really want to be involved with them anymore as they are so much stress and drama, but I don't want to spite my nephew. WIBU if I returned the gift and maybe got him something else (or nothing at all if they're not talking to me). I want to buy my daughter a certain gift for her birthday and they sell it in the same shop. So I thought maybe I could return it and use the value of the train table towards it. Then see how things are going with them and buy something else for my nephew? Or is that really bad of me? If her parents hadn't bought almost the exact same thing, I wouldn't have even entertained the idea of returning it. But it just seems a waste to throw the other one when it looks identical.
What would you do?
Sorry it's long!