MIL PARKING AIBU

[Mooey89]

It’s a parking one, settle in.

ExPIL collect DS every other Friday to take him to his dads.
The neighbours opposite are blue badge holders and have a disabled bay.
Neighbour is elderly and has an oxygen tank to carry around and gets out of breath with more than a few paces. They are lovely.

ExPIL are inconsiderate and rude.
MIL has a historic blue badge. She does struggle to walk long distances as she gets tired (overweight). She is very worried that she doesn’t meet the criteria anymore since a hip operation and it’s due for renewal, but she does currently have a blue badge.
They seek out BB spaces even if there’s a non Bb right next door, just out of principle or because they don’t have to pay.

They always park in neighbours Bb space. Even when there’s another one a few spaces away down the road.
Usually, FIL drops MIL off to do the handover, then waits in the car with his paper, often for 10,15 minutes while MiL comes in to collect dS.
This is sitting in neighbours Bb bay.

Just before Christmas there was a stand off because they were sitting in neighbours space when neighbours arrived home wishing to park. Instead of moving they sat there resolutely refusing to budge because ‘we actually have a badge and technically anyone can park here’

Now I know TECHNICALLY they can but they watched little old neighbour struggle
Home with her oxygen tank rather than move a few paces down the road.

I took a Christmas card to neighbours and apologised because I was so embarrassed.

Today they came to pick up DS, and did it again! There was a space two cars in front!!!

There’s no point to this rant because they’ll keep doing it, but AIBU to think they’re inconsiderate and fucking rude?!

You missed the EX out of your title so I mark you down for that. But I give you a commendation for one of the greatest problem combinations.

I don't think there's much you can do about it other than ask them to park outside your house rather than use the blue badge. It will no doubt fall on deaf ears but I do feel for you.

Yes I would do what pallisers said.

And also look into helping them get it allocated just to the neighbour.

I’d do a combination of what previous posters have said. I would prewarn exPIL not to park in the disabled bay, and if they do park there I would answer the door, tell MIL that she needs to go back to the car and tell FIL to move it while DS gets his coat and shoes on .

I’d also help the neighbour with an application to register the space to their car only .

Can you tell your Ex that you will only hand over your 5 year old to him on changeovers unless he tells his parents they can't park in that space any more and why.

He comes himself, or his parents stop acting like dicks in their parking.

Hi A Wish. It’s court ordered for exPIL due to DV. It’s in the thread

You aren't going to solve this. She has a DPB (BB) and legally they can do this. Also given history of DV and court ordered contact, you don't want to be rock the boat bwith any standoffs with ExPILs. Also why should DS be "waiting at window" just incase ExPILs arrive early? That'd put stress on you.

Your best option is to tell disabled NDN schedule of when they are picking up, so she avoids going out or coming back needing to park over that 20 mins. It's a small period in the day, so she might appreciate the heads up.

Two, you could anonymously report to local borough council (who are the ones that supply the DPB) that she is due for renewal in X month and is abusing DPB as she can now walk further than 100m with ease since her operation. The LA would write to her GP then, as part of her renewal/ check, rather than just renew it. Don't tell ExPILs that you are doing this.

But if she no longer needs a DPB, if that is what is irritating you, then she needs reporting. Your NDN or anyone in your street could report her too or even film her. There's a monetary gain to DPB, as some places you get free parking, so it's considered fraud.

I meant DS shouldnt have to "wait at window" dressed and ready to go 1/2 hour early. 5 year olds don't like that!!

Sorry, OP. Thought I'd caught all your posts.

That really sucks. I agree with the posters that have suggested you talk to your neighours and explain the situation (that your ex inlaws are selfish, entitled arseholes), when they pick up and drop off, and that you will endeavour to get your child in and out as quickly as possible when they arrive.

Not much more you can do, really. But your neighbours might be able to ensure their own car is there at those times...