New job and 14 weeks pregnant

[ForTheLoveOfDoughnuts]

I've started a new job this year and I'm 14 weeks pregnant.

I'm terrified. I don't know how or when to tell them?

Part of me thinks IABU to not tell them ASAP. But part of me wants time to prove I'm good at my job (pass training etc) then tell them?

Any advice welcome

voxnihili

I'm just saying the truth, it's super shady to be not mentioning it to your employer. Don't care if the pregnancy was out the blue, planned, emaculate conception. I guess I just don't like deceit. I planned the crap out of my pregnancies, used loads of contraception when I didn't want to be a mum again, just got on with it I guess! Certainly wasnt gonna get pregnant at the start of a new job. You just dont.

You’re not really convincing me tiger.

Tiger I planned when to get pregnant too, when I was well established at a company. Now, five years since we first started trying, I've moved on from that organisation and I go by when the IVF clinic tells me to rather than when it's convenient for my employer. Should I have just stayed at the same company in the same job on the small chance that IVF works so that I don't potentially inconvenience an employer?

Thank you @Flamingchips. My story did have a happy ending eventually. I'll never forget the guilt though of my reaction when I found out about my first pregnancy just after starting the job. I spent months feeling like I deserved the miscarriage.

TigerlilyMoon wow what disgusting comments. How lucky you are to have got pregnant when you wanted to and not when you didn't. Women shouldn't have to put the rest of their lives on hold around ttc so as not to inconvenience others.

Please don't feel pressure to tell them until you are ready / legally obligated to do so and ignore anyone who tells you otherwise. For now it is no one else's business but your own. Hopefully they will be more supportive than some people in here!

Wow tiger, you do understand that work is just a part of life not the be all and end all don’t you? You’re way too invested in the interests of a company that you don’t even know. Gold star for having clockwork fertility but a lot of people don’t you know. Maybe sniff a couple of flowers, read a couple of books?

OP I think I’d brace myself and tell them. I don’t really see how you’ll manage your appointments otherwise if you’re full time. If you’re planning on returning to work then make a point of letting them know your plans. They’re still going to be less than joyful (it does mean their plans will be scuppered and extra work for them so it’s only natural) but they’ll get over it quick enough.

Ime there are worse problems you can have with new starters (sick leave, qualified but incompetent, know it alls etc). If you like it there and you’re good then keep doing what you’re doing.

I got pregnant within a couple of months of starting a new job and am now going into my fifth year with the same company as one of their highest performers. It can and does work out for a lot of women.

Good luck and congratulations