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To be exhausted by friend?

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NeverSayFreelance · 11/01/2019 12:15

Background: Friend is male, I am female, been friends since school, nothing romantic involved.

Friend was dumped by his long term girlfriend last year and ever since has been leaning on me for help in finding a new partner. He texts me constantly asking why nobody likes him, why he can't find a girlfriend, and asks if I can set him up with my friends Hmm I've explained multiple times that my friends either do not like the idea of being set up on dates, are already in relationships, or are gay. And I don't have that many female friends to start with. He even asks if I can arrange nights out with my friends and invite him along just so he can try to romance them - which to be quite honest I'm totally uncomfortable with. I would feel like I'm some kind of pimp.

This has been going on for a long time and it's really starting to exhaust me. There's nothing I can do to help him. I'm not a love guru, and I don't have some infinite supply of women to give him to choose from. But I receive these comments every day and I just can't take it anymore.

Am I unreasonable for wanting him to stop? What should I do?

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pippistrelle · 11/01/2019 14:27

YANBU to be tired of it.

You've told him you don't want to do as he's asking, but have you told him to stop raising it with you? Just say to him what you've said here plus 'Please don't raise this with me again.'

OneStepMoreFun · 11/01/2019 14:30

'I'm not a love guru, and I don't have some infinite supply of women to give you to choose from.

Brilliant line. Say this.

Butchyrestingface · 11/01/2019 14:31

Has he always been this needy? How old is he?

blackteasplease · 11/01/2019 14:33

Doesn't he have access to the internet?

sackrifice · 11/01/2019 14:41

Ever since has been leaning on me for help in finding a new partner

'Hi. Stop leaning on me to help you find a new partner.'

Then stop doing it.

The end.

JiltedJohnsJulie · 11/01/2019 14:43

You need to advertise him free to a good home. Try My single best friend.

NeverSayFreelance · 11/01/2019 18:02

He has access to the internet and is using dating apps but says he's not getting anywhere.

Hahaha omg "mysinglefriend" that sounds like exactly what I need!

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