More a wwyd. My eldest dd is 10. She has two younger siblings (one is 9 and one is 5). Both the youngest have autism and adhd and other needs. Our 9 year old would probably be described as high functioning. Eldest is great with her younger brother (5). He has quite severe disabilities but can be quite mean to our 9 year old dd. She’s also it seems forever grumpy and I’m unsure how to help her. We had a tough year with her brother last year and ended up taking legal action against his school. So it has been hard on all of us. I know she’s due to enter puberty but she’s rude and bolshy and I know a lot is par for the course. I make sure she gets to attend the clubs she enjoys. I know friends seem to be an issue and I raised it last year with school but they don’t see a problem. I make time for her. Take her out just the two of us but I feel for her. She has so much on her little shoulders and she also has food allergies which obviously again makes her stand out. She also seems quite anxious around people or she shows off a lot. Any wise words of advice please?