To be annoyed at nursery staff making me feel guilty about breakfast?

[Foxey]

I dropped of my dd this am and as we were running late I didn't go in as usual and just passed dd over and said oh and could she please have breakfast?. the nursery nanny (or whatever they are called) took her and said ok but you could tell she thought poor of me. i ended up spluttering out - 'oh we didnt have time this morning'. however once I had got to my car I though 'cheeky cow, making me feel bad. That nursery costs a bloody fortune and they only give her weetabix' when we do have breakfast at home its often scrambled eggs on toast (ketchup of course) but sometimes its weatabix. We are currentl staying with inlaws however so don't do the food shopping (feeble excuse i know) and cant leave a mess so have started to skip it more. Anyway am I a bad mum for not being more organised? I am intending to ask if there is a problem giving breakfast this am. But it defo has made me feel bad too.

She didn't make you feel guilty, you made yourself feel guilty. Stop stressing about it.

Honestly? I think you are feeling bad all by yourself without the help of the nursery woman.

I don't know what the normal arrangements are and whether it's part of the nursery's remit to give breakfast, but if it has made you sad and anxious then you need to make sure you get time to do breakfast in the mornings to prevent the situation arising again.

Alternatively you could talk to nursery to say, 'How do you feel about giving dd breakfast?'

Good point but it's my nature.

What Carmenere said

tough crowd this morning but ok. will try not to stress so much...(about this).

LOL

Tough crowd, it's always a tough crowd.

You are making yourself feel bad though. you probably just caught the girl on the hop, so to speak, and she just answered you off hand.

Put it like this - would you critisize anyone else for what you did?

Not a tough crowd really - just an honest one.

I also think that it's you making yourself feel guilty - your post doesn't tell us what the nursery nurse thought, it tells us what you thought.

Don't stress.

My dd's sometimes go to my Mum's before school (she is a cm), they often don't have breakfast until they get there as it means I don't have to wake them so early.

I think breakfast is important, but I don't think it matters whether your dd has it at home or at nursery.

Don't feel guilty about it.

i wouldnt let it stress you out, they are looking after your dd for you (yes i know it costs a fortune i will be glad of the money when my dd leaves this year for school)

but all in all do they care for your dd well?

i am sure it wasnt meant to come across in any way you thought, amybe becaue you were rushing etc, it just added to the stress of the morning,

my dd sometimes refuses brekkie at home but i dont worry to much as they have toast at 9.am, then a massive home cooked dinner at 12.00. and i really do mean home cooked there is only 10 children, and it is extension on there house....

I have always tried to be as noce as possible to the nursery girls as in my opinion it is a hard job, for little money, and at the end of the day they are looking after my baby girl very well,

Flamingtoms, I would (secretly) be critical of others so thats probably why I am stressing so much. I blame my mother for this though as I darent even tell her that this happened as would probably call social services. Anyway I think I will try to make more time for breakfast as I think I should. thanks

dd2 goes to private nusery in the mornings. she always has breakfast at home, but is also offered cereal at nursery.

I think it is you who are making yourself feel bad, over nothing.
Ds has breakfast at nursery. But recently he wansts to have it at 6.30 am with dh. I have stopped this. Becasue I pay for breakfast at nurser, but mainly becasue if he has it at home, he misses out on the socail aspect of breakfast at nursery, and also if he has it at 6.30, rather than 8am, he is starving at mid morning break. Seems harsh, but it is sensible.
Give yourself a break, let it go.

My god, my sister's saviour is breakfast club for her son. If she had to feel guilty about not managing to spoon porridge down both his neck and his sister's at break neck speed before dropping off two kids at two different locations and catching the 8:13 to London, her life would be miserable. Nursery nurses can be a little diffident because they don't have to load the dishwasher, get the little sods dressed, apply their makeup, let the cat out and track down the car keys all at the same time. If they're looking after him they're hardly going to let him starve, so the fact that you asked them to feed him at all is to your credit -you could just have dropped him cranky and run, letting them work out why he was cranky... It's only a one-off this time. My guess is that you're feeling guiltier than you need to.

Foxey, you only have to be Good Enough, not perfect. Everyone has off-days, and you are paying the nursery to supplement your care of your child. Running late one morning and missing breakfast is hardly a social services matter!

I think it is possible, that Foxey is feeling a bit stressed, due to satying with her in-laws.

Oh yes I have definately had enough of living in other peoples home but I do have a tendancy to stress anyway . However snowwonder, I am pretty happy with dd's nursery and the staff. The nursery nurse I am refering to is often a bit like that...e.g. i know she would prefer for me to allow them to use the asthma pump our doc prescribed more(which i hate)- she seems to always let her feelings known. But yes sometimes there isn't time for breakfast. If dd gets up late then she has a bottle first and its often to early for her to be properly hungry. Just tough I guess.