Stag/hen do vs wedding guests.

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So we're getting married this Yr. We weren't going to have stag or hen dos as such maybe a meal with joint friends for various reasons.
Dp has just started a new job and mentioned wedding and they talked him ito a stag do. Fair enough

But I'm a bit confused as imo you don't invite people to stags or hens if not invited yo wedding.

Were at capacity for venue and not having a reception so it's not like we can add them to just reception.

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I agree I think it’s a bit weird and rude to invite people to a stag or hen but not the wedding.

Maybe they just want an excuse for a works piss-up?

Don’t read too much into it. Presumably they know the invites went out ages ago.

In most cases, you’d generally only invite people to the stag or hen if they’re invited to the wedding. However, it seems as if DP’s colleagues want the stag do for a piss up, which is fair enough. When a woman I used to work with got married we held her a ‘work hen’, which was basically a night out for about 20 of us, even though none of us were invited to the wedding.
I wouldn’t worry about it. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

Men tend to be fine with going to a stag do where they aren't invited to wedding. My dh has been to a couple where he hasn't been invited to the wedding and he genuinely didn't mind.

I think it's a case of the more the merrier.

Yeah that's what I thought. He's only been there a week. Invites haven't been sent yet but the list is done and no room for adding or changing.
Fair plays to a work piss up. But they can just go whenever don't need a reason. It's lovely they all get on so well so soon.

I think it’s different rules for blokes, my husband has been on stag do’s and not had an invite to the actual wedding. I even questioned him the first time he went on one uninvited to the wedding, but he just saw it as a good excuse for a piss up. He didn’t actually want to go to the wedding!

I disagree with pps.
I invited work colleagues to my hen do who weren't invited to our wedding. And have been to dos when not a wedding guest.