How can I consider baby number 2 with a prolapse

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Sorry- posting here for traffic but I'm pretty upset

I had a fast birth with 14 month old ds1. Diagnosed with mild bladder prolapse post birth, was shown how to do pelvic floors and I was lazy and stopped doing them- because things improved to a "normal" point

Two things have happened in the last fortnight - I'm leaking uribe after going back to work and spending majority of day standing and, now slightly constipated (tmi alert)-I can feel THAT bulging out of vagina too

I'm gutted. I know I need to revisit physio and actually do my exercises but I need advice from anyone that's been there- am I going to have to wait TTC no 2? Is conceiving (if we're lucky) going to cause my body to collapse?! I'm not getting younger and I feel gutted that things are somehow deteriorating a whole year down the line

Any help or advice - particularly on pregnancy after prolapse - would be really appreciated

Yes, it's probably best to get this fixed before you try to get pregnant again. So make that a priority - there's no reason that it should stop you from having another child but this isn't something that will just fix itself.

I know it's dispiriting, but this will be OK, as long as you do the things you need to do

I had a forceps and episiotomy and a very painful recovery. Had physio for 6 months before feeling somewhere near ok. Still got a slight prolapse. I’m currently 16 weeks pregnant and things feel noticeably looser and weaker. When I sneeze I come very close to peeing (I hav3 to stand still as if I kept walking I would). The only way I considered a second child was that I’ll be asking for a CS. NHS would contemplate prolapse surgery until after finishing having children so I guess that means further damage is a possibility

OP please don’t worry. I had a posterior and anterior prolapse after DC1 and had a perfectly normal pregnancy and delivery with DC2. Indeed the only positive thing about a prolapse is given your pelvic floor is knackered, for me, DC2 fell out after 2 pushes

I remember only too well how upsetting it is when this happens, and how unfair it all seems. However, I had a successful repair after my second delivery and everything is now back to normal.

Just to add - my prolapse was no worse after my second pregnancy/delivery and I have a 22 month age gap. There is no reason to wait at all - in fact it’s recommended not to have surgical correction until after you have completed your family as a repair will almost certainly be destroyed by another DC.

Sorry, by fixed I meant do your physio, not have surgery - it seems like physio solved the problem last time?

Thank you all so much. I do feel much better- your example in particular edwinbear gives me hope! In fact, the second one practically falling out wouldn't be unwelcome!!

Getting back on track with kegels

Thank you again everyone for taking the time to respond

I've got the squeezy app on my phone, which reminds me to do the exercises three times a day. I have a mild prolapse after birth of my twenty month old, and now 5 weeks pregnant so am diligently squeezing! 😂

I have a stage 3/4 bladder prolapse - protrudes at least 3 cm, sometimes is like a golf ball. Also have a mild rectocele (bowel). Got the bladder prolapse just before my first was born and have now had 3 large babies (9lb12), all quickly and without intervention. The prolapse was always bad for the first little while after labour and on and off during pregnancy, but just heavy and uncomfortable, not painful. I honestly dont think it made much of a difference to pregnancy or labour though i cant deny its got gradually worse. My youngest is now almost 2 and I've just got a pessary sorted out, which helps until the kids are old enough to make an op feasible. Its not nice, but I try not to think about it too much. Gets me down sometimes though. It is always at it's worst just before my period and around ovulation. You can get a pessary if you want to have more children and wear it all through pregnancy, but if you get it fixed with an operation they ask you to have finished having kids for sure, as it has a high chance of failing during pregnancy and labour and once it's failed once, it's much harder to successfully reoperate.