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Not to send DP round?

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ExHHouseHelp · 09/01/2019 19:18

I’ve just sold a bed frame on a local selling page. We had to buy a bed frame as a stop gap when the new one we ordered was suddenly out of stock and used it for a few months. The man came to collect it today and took it away to assemble it. I’ve since had a message saying it’s not a king size as I said it was. Our mattress is a king size and we ordered a king size bed. He sent me photos of the bed assembled and it does seem to be a double. I asked my partner and he said ‘well the mattress DID overhang a bit either side’! Shock I had never even noticed but it looks like the shop sent us the wrong bed months ago and we’ve been using it with the wrong mattress!

I apologised profusely, offered to refund the money etc but he’s getting very aggressive by message, telling me he wants my partner there now to dismantle it at his house. He keeps messaging to ask how long he’ll be, how angry he is that i’ve wasted his time and that I clearly knew it was a double when I sold it to him. He is insisting my partner is there ‘within the next couple of hours’. Shock

I have been extremely apologetic but i’m a bit shakey now as he knows where we live and I hate confrontation.

AIBU not to send him round?

OP posts:
EwItsAHooman · 09/01/2019 22:54

He does not deserve a goodwill gesture! It's a bedframe not fucking rocket science. And yes, I've assembled three of them recently, it took less than 30 minutes each. Hardly laborious.

Consolidatedyourloins · 09/01/2019 23:01

Ewlts

Depends on the bed frame.

People seem to have no empathy for the inconvenience they cause others.

Fruitbatdancer · 09/01/2019 23:12

This is why I don’t sell shite on the inter web.

Evilspiritgin · 09/01/2019 23:14

As far as this man knows you’ve lied to him
wasted his time by making him come collect it then when he asks you to rectify your mistake you won’t he doesn’t know that you will pay him back, to him you are a liar who has conned money out of him,

I can’t believe you didn’t know your partner obviously did, I’m sorry I’m not suprised it’s been dumped in your drive way, I would probably do the same

mumoflittlemouse · 09/01/2019 23:25

Ewlts -agree. And ‘pound them up his arse’ made me 😂 Shh, trying to stealth read MN while everyone else is asleep!

ErickBroch · 09/01/2019 23:27

It's a mistake, you offered a refund and apologised. Not sure why you would intentionally lie to someone who literally knows where you live... Bloke sounds utterly deranged!

Consolidatedyourloins · 09/01/2019 23:37

An apology and a refund doesn't cut it in this situation.

The bedframe was useless to him, you should have removed it from his house.

Some entitled princesses on this thread (or even princes, who knows).

ErickBroch · 09/01/2019 23:42

Oh yes, when someone is aggressive and threatening the first thing I want to do is turn up to his house! As if.

Consolidatedyourloins · 09/01/2019 23:52

He doesn't sound aggressive from what OP says he texted. Maybe if OP had offered for her and DH to collect the bed then he wouldn't have been so annoyed.

And he wasn't asking OP to go there, but her DH.

I would have given disposal money if I wasn't going to collect the bedframe.

Flossmequick · 10/01/2019 00:03

Shock How far away was he?

I would be pissed of about my petrol & time Wine

louise5754 · 10/01/2019 00:11

He can't have been that aggressive if he dumped it and drove off. He didn't even knock on your door?

DinoDave · 10/01/2019 00:19

I think you were crazy to just refund his money like that and doormat springs to mind.

It was a genuine mistake. I would have offered to go and collect the bed as soon as was reasonably possible and then refunded the money after you'd got your bed back.

Fuck just sending a bank transfer without having the bed, giving him the chance to smash it up.

BumbleBeee69 · 10/01/2019 00:33

Has the bedframe been damaged by them throwing over into your garden ? you shouldn’t have handed any money over until you had the frame back undamaged.

Justaboy · 10/01/2019 00:37

Sounds a right case this one best bet is to disengage with him and put it down to a bad experernce.

Imagine whjat it must be like to be married to him or even work with the wally!

ReanimatedSGB · 10/01/2019 00:55

He's an abusive shitbag. You were reasonable throughout and he has just got more and more ridiculous. If you hear anything more from him, message him this: 'You have been refunded. Do not contact us again.' And if he does pester you again, inform the police that he has been aggressive and unreasonable.
He bought something from you that didn't suit, and complained, you refunded his money and that should have been the end of it. No one has the right to make any more demands than a refund over a faulty/unwanted product.

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/01/2019 00:57

Well given that the money was refunded and the bed returned, it is now the property of the OP again. I would be wondering whether his deliberate destruction of it would class as criminal damage.

What a fucking arsehole. Clearly he was spoiling for a fight and his reaction was completely over the top.

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